When the Right Decision Still Hurts: Exploring Regrets and Confessions

Raw vulnerability takes center stage as we open our hearts about life's most difficult decisions and their lingering emotional impact. Jay Shetty's quote, "Feeling sad after making the right decision does not mean that it wasn't the right decision," serves as our touchstone while navigating deeply personal territory.

Amy bravely shares her recent dating disappointment—how a promising four-month relationship collapsed when her partner discovered her photo in Match.com marketing emails and jumped to conclusions about her honesty. Her story uncovers the specific challenges of dating after fifty, when experience makes us more cautious but doesn't shield us from heartbreak. Her candid questioning—"How could I be this wrong?"—echoes what many of us feel after relationship endings.

In perhaps our most vulnerable moment, Kitty confesses about walking away from her first marriage at age 28, a decision that, while ultimately right, left lasting emotional impact. "The who you are at 22 is not who you were meant to stay," she reflects, articulating how personal evolution sometimes necessitates painful choices. Despite knowing her current life with her husband and son is exactly where she belongs, she still carries the weight of having hurt someone deeply.

Stacey's reflections center on parenting regrets—wondering if she was present enough during her children's formative years, especially through divorce. Despite raising three successful adults, the question of "could I have done better?" continues to linger, a universal parenting doubt that transcends circumstances.

What emerges from our conversation is a powerful truth: none of us had adequate guidance navigating these major life transitions. "There's no manual for this stuff," we acknowledge, highlighting how talking openly about these experiences not only lightens our own burdens but potentially helps others feel less alone in their similar journeys.

Ready to hear how three friends support each other through life's most challenging reflections? Listen now, and perhaps find the courage to share your own story with someone who cares.

Amy, Kitty & Stacey

P.S. Isn't our intro music great?! Yah, we think so too. Thank you, Ivy States for "I Got That Wow".

Transcript

Speaker 2 0:19

All right running, get me to the top, I don't need a.

Speaker 3 0:26

Hello, hello, hi everyone, hello, hello and welcome to another episode of Three Cocktails In. We are all checking in here tonight.

Speaker 5 0:37

I can see myself Okay, that's a good start. Progress, right Progress.

Opening Chatter and Easter Treats

Speaker 4 0:46

We might be 100% technology.

Speaker 5 0:52

You should have said it.

Speaker 4 0:54

Yeah, you and your woo-woo, it's going to be fine. Oh you guys. Everything's working and is going to continue to work.

Speaker 5 1:04

Casey's manifesting. We're throwing out some woo woo.

Speaker 3 1:07

Yeah, I just want to say that I am taking great comfort in the fact that Amy and I are not the only ones who count stairs. So whichever one of you put that poll up or pose that question, thank you, because I feel so much better about my porkiness.

Speaker 5 1:24

Yes, that there's like one and a half other people?

Speaker 4 1:30

no, no, there were only a few, there were a couple. And remember our favorite, you know, deanna, who was a guest, was one that says going up but not down.

Speaker 3 1:41

She says why but she even?

Speaker 4 1:43

questions like why, why I still do? Nobody had a real answer for why any of you count stairs. No, there's no reason.

Speaker 5 1:55

It's just a little rain. Man in me.

Speaker 3 1:58

Okay, that's the reason, oh man and let's see this episode drops. When does this episode drop?

Speaker 4 2:09

Stacey Next week, oh, in a week and a half, I don't know, like I don't. Okay, yeah, so last Thursday in May or in April.

Speaker 3 2:24

Okay. So when we're recording this, we are just a few days out from Easter, and so the question today was fresh peeps, stale peeps, no peeps.

Speaker 5 2:32

Yeah, you know peeps are my thing. I love peeps.

Speaker 4 2:38

But I was surprised that you like them stale, though I prefer them stale, but as soon as I bring them stale, though I prefer them stale.

Speaker 5 2:45

but I got as soon as I bring them home I cut that bag open and I have two. I have a little confession. We'll just get into a little theme. Little theme the other morning I hardly had any food in my house and I had a little bowl you know just a little packet of oatmeal and I threw some raisins in, tried to get something. You know just a little packet of oatmeal and I threw some raisins in, tried to get something you know healthy going, and I had six peeps left and I ate all of them. I'm like, well, I'm ready to get up and take a shower and go to work.

Speaker 3 3:21

I'm envisioning. I'm envisioning a bowl of cereal with peeps.

Speaker 4 3:27

Did you cut them up all into your cereal?

Speaker 5 3:29

No, they were like my breakfast dessert, so I ate my oatmeal first, and then I rewarded myself with six yellow stale peeps. I was like well, at least I won't eat them tomorrow, because they're all gone now.

Speaker 3 3:46

That's a good way to look at it. I was going to eat them sooner or later.

Speaker 5 3:51

What's the difference?

Speaker 4 3:52

I don't know that that's an odd confession. You know, when I was eating my Girl Scout cookies I rationalized well, if I eat the whole row today, what's the difference? If I have the whole row today, or I have half today and half tomorrow, I'm still going to have them all You're still going to eat a whole row.

Speaker 3 4:14

Yeah, pretty much you guys. Wouldn't it be nice if thin mints actually made you thin?

Speaker 4 4:23

Oh, I know that's a good idea.

Speaker 3 4:25

I so blame the Girl Scouts.

Speaker 5 4:32

But what if peeps made you peep? So I don't think I'm buying into the food doing what his name is Peep, peep, I don't know, isn't that the whole thing Like the little chick, little chick? Yeah, you couldn't call them cheeps, that would be a really bad brand name.

Speaker 4 4:49

It's really kind of dumb that now the peeps which were a little tiny, cute, little chick, are now, you know, blue bunnies.

Speaker 5 4:58

Oh no, there's only yellow, only yellow bunnies or yellow peeps. Only yellow, only yellow bunnies or yellow peeps. I do not partake in the Halloween peeps or the green and red Christmas peeps. That's sacrilege.

Speaker 4 5:15

Yellow peeps or nothing, so okay.

Speaker 3 5:20

That was a funny start. So clearly for those of you listening or watching, we don't talk much during the week, so you get to see each other. It's like we've got to get these things out.

Speaker 5 5:32

Yeah.

Amy's Dating Disappointment

Speaker 3 5:33

Well, to the task at hand. All right, we're going to talk about something. I mean really we hope that everything that we talk about here is relatable to everyone. We're going to talk a little bit today about regrets and confessions, and I came across a quote today. Jay Shetty shared it, and the quote is feeling sad after making the right decision does not mean that it wasn't the right decision, and it just, I mean, I think we all know that, but it's really good to be reminded of that, because sometimes we do feel that when we are feeling sad because of something that we did or something that we went through did or something that we went through, we need to remind ourselves that it doesn't necessarily mean that that wasn't a good thing that made change. And so we're going to dig into this topic a little bit today and share some things.

Speaker 5 6:41

I can totally relate to that quote. It was really hard getting the divorce, shaking my entire life up, and I was sad about it. I was very sad about it, but I also knew it was the right decision. Yeah, and I keep thinking. You know, know, it's springtime and this is. We've had the conversation, a couple years running now, about new year's resolutions, and I'm not a new year's resolution person, but I tend to do some serious reflection in the spring. This is when it seems like new stuff, new beginnings, green grass, getting a lighter feeling, maybe planning vacations, things like that, and so this is the time of year when I do my reflection and I find myself single again. So they're lovely people and it just this one has kind of been a punch in the gut Because I did things differently this time.

Speaker 5 7:53

I'm trying, I've done more self-reflection in the last five years than I've done in the first 50 of my life. I just, you know, you just go and do yeah, but I'm trying to be thoughtful about decision making. I'm trying to, if you can, think about a bigger picture and not get stuck on the little things, because we all make mistakes and we hope to learn from them. But I approach this relationship completely differently than anybody I had dated thus far. On that I'd met on match or even don't even get me started on dating. In college there was no thought to that process. That was all you know, hormone and situation driven basically. But I got really. I was really, I want to say, careful and thoughtful and what I'd like to think of as discerning.

Speaker 5 8:56

This man was older. I mentioned that that he was older, he was nearing retirement. He'd had a very he still is almost, you know, he's still working, has a very great, very long standing career with a lot of responsibility. He I was, if anything, a little slow in deciding how I felt about, about the whole thing, but then I was like you know what I really enjoy being with him. I really enjoy, you know, and I can see the track that we wanted to go on was turning out to be the same turns out, he has some chronic health issues that he let me know about early on and he's had some issues over maybe the last six weeks and we didn't see each other very often, which is understandable, but his communication pretty much stopped and I don't do well with no communication.

Speaker 5 9:59

Yeah, I loved my mom dearly, but she gave us the silent treatment. If she was mad at us, it could last for more than one day and it killed me as a kid and I still equate no conversation as there's something wrong. And so, you know, I brought it up. I said, hey, you know, if we are going to be a couple and move forward with this, I'm gonna have to see, we're gonna see each other and are down and are down points. And he's like I'm not used to that. I still want to put my you know, my best foot forward and I'm like, but but don't shut me out. I mean yeah, yeah, whatever. So I thought we were over it.

Speaker 5 10:43

he had another kind kind of flare up issue and said I can't do, called me, said I can't do this, I can't do my job, I can't be in this relationship, I can't take care of my health. And then he said I need to tell you something and I need you to listen without interrupting me. And then you can, you can respond. Okay, that's never a good sign in my you know. He said um, I got a marketing email from match on friday and your picture was on it. So either you didn't go out, you didn't cancel your um subscription like you said you did, or all my sickness has made you have second thoughts and you got back on.

Speaker 5 11:29

But that was just really hurtful. That was Friday. He waited to bring it up till Monday and he'd already decided I lied, I, I had canceled my subscription. Those things are three months, you know. But I had my setting private. I hadn't gotten a single message from anybody since, you know, way back. I hadn't responded to anybody since I decided that I was going to date him. I mean from the first date, once we had our first date. I didn't see talk to date anybody else all the way back in December. So here I am again, again in this situation. Where is he really sick? Is he trying to blow me off? Did I misread? Am I stupid? Am I gullible? And this is just not where I thought it was gonna be five years ago yeah it makes you feel really shitty.

Speaker 5 12:35

Mm-hmm, it was the right decision because earlier that day I kind of put out to you too that I was thinking that this might be the time that this probably isn't going to be a good relationship. And I was even saying, I even asked you guys is it wrong to break up with somebody because they're sick and they don't want you to be any part of their life? And you two never answered. By the way, I'm just going to call you out on that one.

Speaker 4 13:02

Well, that's a hard answer. It is hard to answer.

Speaker 5 13:05

It is hard to answer and nobody knows.

Speaker 4 13:08

There's not a right answer to that, it's all situational and I just feel like sometimes you know, were you really wanting to know our opinion?

Speaker 5 13:22

or did you just want?

Speaker 4 13:23

to Get it out there. Put it out there, yeah.

Speaker 5 13:29

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. So Stacy asked me today what did you ask me? How ask that question?

Speaker 4 13:35

again. You know, are you really, now that it's over, are you really that disappointed because you you know you have to start all over now and and you know it's a disappointment and that or you really upset because you're going to miss him specifically? You know, is it the feelings with him or that it's just over and you got to start again? That was, I think, my question, and I'm sure it's just over and you got to start again. That was, I think, my question and I'm sure it's some of both yeah, if you would have asked me.

Speaker 5 14:09

That night. Afterwards I was so pissed off that he thought I lied and he did not really give me a chance to. I mean, there was no discussion about it and I even started to say something and I could just tell from the tone. I'm like okay, well, I don't need to argue with you about something you've already made your mind up about. Yeah, and then today I was really starting to feel really sad about this.

Speaker 5 14:38

Really sad because I it's yeah of course I don't want to start over, but at the same time, how could I be this wrong?

Speaker 3 14:54

That I, so I understand the question and the emotion of that, but we each are unique individuals and he was putting forth what he wanted you to see in the first months of dating, as we do. I'm not faulting him for that, we all do that. You were doing the same thing until you get to a comfort level and then you kind of start opening up a little bit, and so how long were you seeing each other? Four months. Four months is not a very long time.

Speaker 5 15:37

It is in the dating world at 50 plus years old. You pretty much know way before then then, whether or not you're going to try and date somebody long I mean yes, whether whether this person is worth the effort to continue dating.

When Relationships End Unexpectedly

Speaker 5 15:57

So usually in the first couple months you you are smart enough and you've had good conversations where you know we are on track on big things. We're going the same direction. Yes, you're right, it's not a long time to get to really know somebody, but this is the time when you start to get to know them.

Speaker 3 16:21

Yeah, yeah, and you did.

Speaker 5 16:29

And now, and maybe that was it, maybe that this is how he is and that it and it wasn't going to be a good match. Yeah, yeah, um my, you know, we talked last time about how we love those millennials and Gen Z girls and I was having a conversation with Georgia and kind of telling her about it and she goes Mom, that really sucks, but I think you brought the match stuff up so he didn't have to feel like he was the bad guy.

Speaker 4 17:02

Hmm, could be. Yeah, maybe If it was that quick of a decision for him. Maybe it wasn't really, and he's been thinking about it and he found a thing and that was the end. That was a way he could end it, yeah.

Speaker 3 17:20

Maybe I don't know, I would be kind of mad at Match. Yeah, I'm super pissed off. Yeah, now I'm assuming that when you go through the registration process and the subscription process, that you probably signed something that gave them permission to use your image in marketing, right, yeah?

Speaker 4 17:45

but also explain to people if you see your, your profile and if someone would click on you, then what? What happens?

Speaker 5 17:54

okay, so I know this from prior times. You remember my, my one buddy that kept that. We went out with each other for a while and I knew that one was not going to work because he anyway um well, he would. He would occasionally pop up because I get the marketing emails and and I don't have a current subscription, and so I clicked on him because he still had the same wrong age that he had a year ago when I had met him, which was four or five years younger than he was a year ago, you know. So I clicked on it to see what's going on and it said this profile is no longer available, right, so he might not be on, but they might just be sharing his picture, which could have been very true. If he would have clicked on my picture, it would have said this profile is no longer available, right? So, yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 5 18:53

I, my mom, told me many, many billions of years ago the grass isn't greener, and I thought that that was a horrible piece of advice to give somebody who was hurting and upset. And damn, if that doesn't come back every once in a while I go. Maybe she was right, maybe it isn't, maybe the devil, you know, is better than the devil. You don't, I?

Speaker 3 19:18

I yeah, it's hard to so. When she gave you that advice, I mean, we were young and there are so many things that you could not tell us when we were 20, 25, you know et cetera.

Speaker 3 19:36

You just as much as we, as parents, want to pass on this knowledge that we have as adults to our kids. You know I'm always trying to hammer. I gently try to transfer these pieces of information to Bo, and you know that some he takes and some he doesn't, and don't don't you just wish that you could package up all of the knowledge and experience that we have and just pop it right into their little brains so that they don't have to go through some of this shit that we went through, and I know that's all life and they have to go through the things that we went through as well.

Speaker 3 20:15

But, yeah, it's. Yeah, that was.

Speaker 5 20:21

That was good advice, but it's hard to take it's hard to be on the receiving end of that as a young person. Yeah Well, yeah, we'll just leave it there? Yeah, it is, it's hard. It's really hard. So I don't know I might be having to look for a therapist that I don't have to counsel. If you want to refer back to the therapist that I was seeing, you know a while back that she would have to take a minute and think about it and then, like, stop crying.

Speaker 4 20:53

Oh my.

Speaker 3 20:58

I don't mean to laugh, but that is really hilarious.

Speaker 4 21:00

Right Gosh yeah. So yeah, that doesn't seem quite right.

Speaker 3 21:05

Yeah, oh, sorry, amy, but you know what it? It wasn't right, wasn't right for you, Wasn't right for him, and so you move on.

Speaker 5 21:18

Yeah.

Speaker 3 21:19

Yeah.

Speaker 5 21:20

And it's okay to feel sad about it, for whatever the, even when you don't know what the real Right, yep, yeah, well, and that's so.

Speaker 3 21:31

That's kind of where my, where my thought process was going, as I prepared for tonight as well, and so I'm. I'm going to share something from my past that hurt for a very long time and as I, as I was thinking about the topic of regrets and confessions, I think the confessions, I think the I don't necessarily look, I don't look at this as a regret. My confession is that I feel horrible that I hurt someone deeply many years ago, and I've rarely talked about it. But when I was 22, I married my college boyfriend and I thought that I was doing everything right, checking the boxes, building a life, um, but by 28,. Um, I walked.

Feeling Sad After Right Decisions

Speaker 3 22:30

I simply simply is not the right word I walked away, I just walked away, and for a long time I didn't talk about it. I don't talk about it very often, it rarely comes up, not because I'm ashamed of it, but because I didn't know how to explain something so personal, so layered and so full of both love and loss. Because that's what it is it's both, it's love and loss. And so I'm sharing that story today, not just as a confession and not exactly as a regret either, but just as a reminder that the who you are at 22 is not who you were meant to stay, and I think that's what I woke up one day and realized.

Speaker 5 23:22

Yeah.

Speaker 3 23:22

And sometimes choosing yourself means walking away from a life that you once thought was the life that you wanted. So the yeah, the confession is again. I said I hurt. I hurt him deeply because it came from nowhere and I didn't even do anything to try to repair it. I just said this is not what I want.

Speaker 5 24:09

I think that's a really hard age. I think that in that of that era I didn't know anybody, that really went to any counseling. I didn't know people. I mean nobody talked about it, nobody shared that stuff. You and I never even shared it. Yeah, I mean a little bit, I mean you know, but and that is a huge weight, that's a huge weight to carry.

Speaker 3 24:35

Yeah, that's a huge weight to carry. Yeah, and it took a long time to forgive myself for it and um, and I, you know so, and I remember. I started dating right away, even when I didn't want to.

Speaker 3 24:57

You know, saying no, you just need to, you just need to, not why do you need to be with anybody? And started dating right away. And so then that relationship was strained because I hadn't even I hadn't even mourned the relationship, that I just walked away from. Um, so and I, I reached out to my ex-husband a few years later and we went and had lunch or dinner or something and I just said I just have to say how deeply sorry I am that I hurt you and and I mean he was so kind and of course you know he just said it's it's okay, it's okay, but I just said it's not okay with me and honestly I wish that I could apologize every year, like once a year, can I?

Speaker 3 25:56

just here's my yearly apology because it's because it's still heavy. It's still heavy on my heart, not because I know it was. I know it was the right decision. I am married to who I was supposed to be with. I know that Beau is the child that I was supposed to have. I love the life that I have, so I know it was the right decision. But the heaviness is knowing that I hurt someone so much and also like if we hadn't gotten married, maybe his life would have gone a different direction.

Speaker 4 26:35

Yeah, but even after all these years, you can't second guess those things. Yeah, I don't think you know, and again, you know it's. How do I want to say it? It's too bad that you're still feeling that much guilt over it, honestly, or have that many feelings and think it was only you, you know, only your fault in it, which I'm sure it wasn't. You know what I mean it's, but that's how it goes. Everybody you know carries with them the same. You know deep feelings for something that important. Yeah, yeah, but like you said, it's turns out it's the right, it was the right decision and I'm sure at that age and you know when that was that was extremely difficult. That's what no one else you know would understand. Yeah, you know, either for you.

Speaker 3 27:34

So I I remember too when I, when I got engaged, and I told my parents and they were like and you know they they loved him, you know. So of course you know what they're not gonna say no, you can't do this. But I know what they were thinking. You know they're like you're too young, but there's that thing again they couldn't tell me that.

Speaker 5 27:59

Nope, nope. I too was engaged to a college boyfriend for a couple years of college and I did break that off during college. And when you come home at 20 and tell your mom and dad that you want to get married and you're a sophomore in college, yeah, yeah, so I waited until I was 24.

Speaker 4 28:32

yeah, did that work any better?

Speaker 5 28:33

no, well, yeah, I am. You know. It's interesting because, uh, my ex and I are still friends and we've talked about it with our girls, um, or I have I don't know that he gets into these kind of conversations with um but I do consider a 29 year marriage a success. We raised three really smart, great girls that are doing well in their lives. We were great parents together. We've managed the divorce very well. We've not put them in the middle, you know, and I consider that one. I consider that a success. Did, I think? Does anybody go into a marriage thinking they're going to get divorced? No, nobody does so.

Stacey's Marriage Confession

Speaker 4 29:36

Interesting. Okay, well, that brings me, um, mine centers, right, okay, so first, I was even younger than these two when I first got married. Um, not a regret. Um, I will never say that it can't work when you get married that young, and even for all of us it could have worked out. My regrets, however, revolve more around feeling guilty or how that affected the kids. Honestly, I was honestly just trying to get through it on myself for myself.

Speaker 4 30:24

You know, sounds maybe really selfish and and less worried about them at the time, if that makes sense. You know how old were old, were they? Well, let's see, mallory was in, I think she was even out of college. Trenton was just starting college, he was no, he was like end of high school, and Madison was eight. So you know all different, you know, but I would say a lot of that and I could list off a lot of things, not just even because of the divorce, but you know, at different times when I I feel like I didn't pay as much attention to them, or you know, you know what I mean Communicate as well as I could have with them.

Speaker 4 31:24

There's a lot of, there's a lot of you know things within just raising them. That, you know, I, just in my head, just like Kitty, says, you know, after years and years, when it was even right, still say, gosh, that might not have been the best choice or the best decision. You know what I mean? Does that make any sense? Just based on raising them, just general stuff, where a lot of the time, where a lot of the time, you know, not from a selfish point at all, but more focused on what I was trying to do, even career-wise, or jobs, you know, spend too much time at work and not enough at home. You know, we've talked about that whole work-life balance type of thing. That's where my regrets center is, you know, and they all three turned out fabulous, so I don't think I totally wrecked them, um right, but that's probably where my biggest regrets, you know, lie, and I wouldn't say, you know, that's a huge confession.

Speaker 3 32:34

I'm assuming everybody kind of feels that way, for, you know, as they're raising their kids, yeah, I don't know well, I mean, it kind of falls into that category of the fact that we, when we get married, when we we have kids, um, if there's a divorce, there's no manual for this stuff. Like how do we know, how do we know what to do or what's best to do? You, you just do what you need to do to survive and you just do what feels right for you. So have you ever talked to your kids about it? Like, why, why do you? Why do you think that you have that regret? Because, like you said, and your kids are great, just like Amy's kids they're grown, they're all married, they're having families of their own, they're all employed, they're good, productive.

Speaker 4 33:38

They're all employed. They're good, productive people. Yeah Well, in spite of me probably they'll say no, we have never all sat down, or even you know whatever on how they've, you know, felt now at this point, based on it being quite a few years ago.

Speaker 5 33:55

No, we've never said, I had a conversation with with one of my daughters a couple years ago, where I apologized. I didn't feel that I understood what she was going through. I didn't, I didn't, I didn't know how to parent what she was experiencing, and I am a glass half full, and so I did all the you know, the stupid things that don't get to the heart of what the child's issue was, and I got you know. Of course she's like no, no no, you are fine, you are a great mom. And I'm like no.

Speaker 5 34:37

I didn't. I didn't do a good job for you, I wasn't, I could have done better and I felt. And I felt really bad now that I'm older and I have spent some time learning and thinking. I mean, the only parenting book we had was what to Expect when you Were Expecting. I mean, self-help wasn't an issue, it wasn't a section. I got a couple books for various specific things, but there's no manual. There's no manual and you have three kids and they're nature versus nurture. They all grow up in the same household completely different kids.

Speaker 4 35:23

But oh yeah, I think that having the conversation to just say I think that it's good right, I don't know, and and that piece of what I'm saying is back at that time we didn't have, we didn't have a conversation.

Speaker 4 35:42

It was just going to happen, and here's what we're all doing, and you know, you know there was no suggestion even of well, do you think you need to talk to a counselor or someone? That wasn't a thought one. That wasn't a thought, you know. It's just, here's how it's going to be and move on. You know what I mean, which you know, I, I'm sure, is absolutely positive. That's not how it should have happened and should have gone, but so, like I said, that's, that's the regrettable part.

Kitty's Parenting Regrets

Speaker 3 36:28

Well, it's good to talk about these things and it's nice to have people in your lives that you can talk about. Them can talk about them because it does feel you know you can alleviate some weight that you might be carrying around Well just to note.

Speaker 5 36:47

I mean, yes, we all know we're not the only ones that feel this stuff, but if nobody ever talks about it, you just sit with it, right, gotta get.

Speaker 5 37:00

Gotta get the negative out to make room for the positive yes yep, not saying that our exes or or these feelings are negatives, but we've I think all three of us have worked hard to try and address it. You know, recognize what it is, think about it, process it, see what we can do to be better people. Yeah, you know, to make amends, if amends are necessary, mm-hmm and set ourselves up for greater success, yeah, Yep, this is our natural, this is our evolution, and set ourselves up for greater success.

Speaker 3 37:38

Yeah yeah, this is our natural, this is our evolution as people.

Speaker 5 37:43

Yeah and sorry younger people if you're listening. There's still shit to go through when you get to be old.

Speaker 4 37:51

Yeah, Well, if anything, it at least shows them that you know whatever they're going through. You know we've all either been through it or know someone who has, and it wouldn't you know whatever they're feeling or whatever's going on wouldn't be unusual for sure. Yeah, Especially, you know, know through marriage and having kids and raising kids would be. Everybody goes through the same thing. So, yeah, all right, I know that was a heavy one, this was a little more heavy than normal I do feel a little better good good, better, yeah.

Speaker 4 38:41

So what's your? Um? I know it's been too soon, but are you going to turn your match right back on and and maybe go try a different one I have to make a whole new profile.

Speaker 5 38:56

That sounds really hard. Are you going to make my profile?

Speaker 4 39:02

No, we could, but you wouldn't leave it that way.

Speaker 3 39:11

Have you watched? Any of Farmer Needs a Wife.

Speaker 5 39:16

Okay first of all, if I could reach through the screen and smack you upside the head, I would no.

Speaker 3 39:23

It's good, these guys are hot, these guys are hot I don't want to move, let alone a farm.

Speaker 4 39:36

I think you would if you saw the farmer.

Speaker 5 39:41

Oh my heavens, farmers only.

Speaker 4 39:46

I think you would get plenty of suitors if you changed your pictures. You know to all be holding a fish, no.

Speaker 5 39:57

I don't have a single photo with me and a fish and I already get fishermen reaching out. That is not what I want. I need to. I need to get some freaking. No, because I don't want to golf.

Speaker 2 40:09

I was gonna say I need to pose with like a golf club or a tennis racket, pickleball.

Speaker 5 40:12

But I don't do any of those things. I have to be true and authentic to myself yes, that's right and no, not yet I am not ready to just like they are.

Speaker 4 40:23

Is that how, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 5 40:27

I don't know.

Speaker 4 40:30

I just don't know. I know I wish I could, we wish we could help you out with that but yeah, you're a little bit, you're too young for the golden bachelorette.

Speaker 5 40:39

I'm just letting your heart You're too young?

Speaker 4 40:42

Yeah, and it would be the same thing. What do you want to you know? That's why I think the golden bachelor whole thing, yeah, I don't know. No, I don't think that's a good way to do it. No, I don't know, I don't think that's a good way to do it.

Speaker 5 41:01

No, I don't know. Yeah. So hey, if you're listening, you got somebody that sounds like me Not exactly like me, but you know.

Speaker 3 41:13

Send a message to our Facebook page. Feel free to our Facebook page.

Speaker 5 41:17

Feel free to share a picture, and I don't know at this point.

Speaker 4 41:23

I want a P and L statement.

Speaker 5 41:28

I think that's okay, I don't see why not. Yeah, oh my gosh. Oh, you guys, am I going to give love another shot?

Speaker 3 41:39

There's a cliffhanger A transition.

Speaker 5 41:45

I have no shots tonight. I'm going to tell you there is no shot in hell that that is happening tonight. So you guys, have any shots?

Speaker 3 41:55

Well, I do, but I left the visual aid upstairs.

Speaker 4 42:00

Oh man. So are you going to describe it, or do you want to wait and show us?

Speaker 3 42:07

I'm going to wait until I have the visual aid. Yeah.

Speaker 4 42:11

Okay, bummer yeah.

Speaker 3 42:13

But it'll be perfect for spring. So even next week it'll be perfect for spring. So even next week it'll be.

Speaker 4 42:18

It'll be good, good yeah, I don't, I was. I was last week and the week before and the week before when I haven't had any shots. I keep saying, this week I'm gonna have a shot and I don't really have a shot. That's okay. It's easter coming up. Um well, by the time this is aired, it will be after. But I did. You know, I did put my cheesy potato recipe out in the web. Perfect. Which is one that a lot of people make Gosh A shot. Otherwise, yeah, I don't.

Speaker 3 42:52

I've got. Well, I think that's a great thing to share, because that's always a favorite at. Easter yeah.

Speaker 4 42:59

That will be on our list. What is everyone doing for Easter?

Speaker 5 43:02

I'm working Easter, we're going to Easter. Sunday. Yeah, we will, because lots of people come into my homes on Easter Sunday.

Speaker 4 43:12

I don't think they do. Are you being facetious? I think so.

Speaker 3 43:19

Nobody is going to come in on Easter Sunday. Give me their number.

Speaker 5 43:27

I don't even have kids. There are people you know not happy and they got kids.

Speaker 3 43:33

Yeah, that's right.

Speaker 5 43:35

But the rationale is we don't like you're going until noon so you can still go to church and have easter brunch oh, oh and get to work at noon, so you don't really get to do much other than maybe go to church yeah, I'll be working. I'll be working, probably eating a ham sandwich, maybe a potato chip you should.

Closing Thoughts and Easter Plans

Speaker 3 44:01

Here's what we should do. We should have Easter breakfast. You come and then go to work there you go?

Speaker 4 44:11

invited you to brunch. I could probably do that no pressure putting out an invitation on yeah, if anybody needs a place to go kitty, go ahead, we'll talk yes, that's very kind of you well, that is good. Yeah, I'm having the whole fam damley at my house on Saturday. So how many people oh, I haven't counted lately With two babies? I think we're up to 16. I don't know, I've lost track. Fun, something like that. Nice With girlfriends and babies. Yeah, yeah, good, that'll be fun, I know.

Speaker 3 44:54

Cute All right, good, that'll be fun. I know Cute, all right, well, shall we? Shall we sign off?

Speaker 5 45:03

I think we should.

Speaker 3 45:05

Thank you all for a lovely conversation. Thank you to the listeners and viewers. Thank you for hanging in with us. We are now. What would this be? 77?

Speaker 4 45:23

77.

Speaker 5 45:23

77 episodes episodes oh my gosh, I know, oh my gosh, we talked about this last, last time.

Speaker 4 45:27

We haven't really put this much effort into anything else we've done okay, we'll see you guys next week.

Speaker 1 45:41

My friends bye cheers, I got that. Wow, who wants some heads up right now?

Speaker 2 46:01

We got that turn it up loud. I know you're wondering how I got that. Wow, here I go. Here I go, coming. I can't ever stop. I'ma tour the forest running, get me to the top. I don't need an invitation. I'm about to start a celebration. Let me in Brought a good time for some friends. Turn it up loud past ten.