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3 Cocktails In
Addicting conversations between friends who have been there, done that and still want more.
We are 3 friends who got this crazy idea to start a podcast based on our friendships, family lives, professional lives and experiences! This idea kept coming up in our conversations, especially after a cocktail or two or maybe three, and we finally decided to ACT on it!
We don't claim to be experts on too many things, but friendship? Well, we've got that down. We're making our way through major life changes, searching for work that excites us, busting myths associated with 'old' people, and keeping a sense of humor about it all.
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Amy, Kitty & Stacey
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3 Cocktails In
Three Singles Walk Into a Bar... Finding Friends After 50
The journey to make meaningful friendships as adults isn't easy, but it's a challenge worth pursuing. In this candid conversation, we dive into month three of our year-long friendship-building experiment, examining what's working, what's not, and why building connections seems harder than ever.
After a midnight confrontation with a weed-smoking neighbor (not exactly friendship material), we share our progress from last month's challenge. Success stories include reconnecting with an acquaintance over "one glass of wine" that turned into an evening requiring a designated driver pickup, vacationing with friends we hadn't spent quality time with recently, and brave solo outings to local establishments. Each small victory represents a step toward building a richer social life.
For month three, we're tackling group activities – joining clubs, volunteering for community events, attending fitness classes, or hosting gatherings. These structured environments provide natural conversation starters and connect people with shared interests. We explore why this approach might be especially important today, as traditional community-builders like religious organizations play a diminishing role in many people's lives.
The statistics are eye-opening: approximately 42% of younger generations identify as less religious than their predecessors, removing what was once a natural foundation for friendship formation. Without these built-in communities, we must work harder to create meaningful connections.
The takeaway is clear: friendship requires a plan, persistence, and patience. Not every social outing yields a new best friend, but each attempt builds confidence and creates possibilities. Join us as we navigate this journey together, sharing both successes and awkward moments along the way.
Ready to build your own friendship circle? Listen now, then follow along with our monthly challenges. We'd love to hear your experiences too!
Amy, Kitty & Stacey
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Speaker 2:Hello, hello, good evening, good evening. How is everyone? I'm good. How are you? I'm good, everybody's good. Well, I hope everyone listening or watching also good Cause this is three cocktails in with Amy, kitty and Stacy. We're here every week. Did you know that we're here every week with the new episode? Pretty amazing, we've gone this long.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it is the only thing that has remained consistent that I have committed to. You know, if I would have designated one night a week to work out and bend this religious, I would probably weigh less than I do. Yeah, right, even one night a week yeah, that's right oh well, this is more fun than that.
Speaker 2:Yes, a lot more, yes, and it's mentally healthy yes yes, it is a win-win I know we get to see each other every week talk about crazy stuff whatever's on their mind at the time, right yeah, um, I have a crazy story to share.
Speaker 4:I do so. I don't know if I've talked about this um or not before, but I, yes, I live in a condo but, um, my next door neighbor likes to smoke a little bit smoke a little weed a little bit, likes to smoke a little bit smoke a little weed a little bit. And I went, I went off last. I actually went and looked it up. Last November I complained to management. I'm like I am tired of my place sounded smelling like an ashtray. I'm ticked off. It was that in between stage, when it wasn't cold enough to have the air conditioning on, it wasn't hot enough to have the air conditioning on, it wasn't hot enough to have the heat on, so I didn't have any. I didn't have anything blowing. So, you know, sense, just me meandered in, you know whatever, and I didn't really blow them out.
Speaker 4:Um, two nights ago at 1130 at night, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, I got a knock on my door. I was out, I was asleep, you know. So I throw my robe on and I kind of go and look like am I hearing things or what. It was my neighbor. He was like come, I go, hello. You know, I'm kind of out of it. And he goes, come to the door. I'm like, um, hello, yes, I didn't open the door. I'm like, no way, yeah, quit calling the office and telling him I'm smoking. I get fined every time you do that. I just got home. For god's sake, I haven't even been home tonight. I'm like I didn't call, I didn't call on you. Oh, come on. He says I'm like, no, I didn't call. Well, and then he went to his, went to his room.
Speaker 3:Yeah, wow, great, I know so at least you know you're not the only one complaining about it.
Speaker 4:I know, you know I didn't do anything about it, but when I came home from work the next day I knocked on his door because I just wanted to set the record straight and say hey, I just, I just want to point out I haven't complained since november. So if you're getting fines, there are a lot of other people that must be must be getting the same smell. Yeah, and it has it. I actually haven't complained in a long time because it's far and few between and it doesn't permeate the whole, my whole condo. It's just kind of a little bit in my bedroom and, as I kind of have joked before, I am only in my bedroom when I go to sleep. So it might be a sleep aid that I'm getting secondhand, you know sort of thing, but, um, that that was a little fine. How do you do?
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, so was was. So. Was he home then? When you knocked on his door, no, he didn't answer oh, I don't know if he was home or not.
Speaker 4:Yeah, so I thought about sliding a note under the door, but at this point I just kind of feel like letting it go.
Speaker 2:Yeah yeah, yeah, but, yeah, but that's interesting that he would think it's you and come at you. I know, right, yeah.
Speaker 3:Probably not good. So is he getting a fine because somebody's complaining or is he not supposed to be smoking because he owns the unit?
Speaker 4:No, he's a renter, but it doesn't matter if you rent or own. No, he's a renter, but it doesn't matter if you rent or own. You can't smoke indoors unless you've been here since before that law went into effect. So that unit's not, that's not, grandfathered in, and even if the unit is and it's a rental, that doesn't work.
Speaker 2:If it's a rental unit, um, there is no interest. Well, welcome to city living people.
Speaker 4:Yeah, maybe he'll get kicked out four years, almost four years I've been down here and that's the, you know, other than the first weekend when the guy across the hall decided he didn't like me, and he's never talked to me since, no other than that I'm a good neighbor. Evidently, this was that. Is it the same guy across the street or across the hall? For me, no, two ones. One's right next door. So, um, my bedroom wall shares a wall with I don't know what how their layout is. The other one's right doorway to doorway across the hall. Yeah, so Wow.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 4:So, you're not really making any friends right In your apartment, nope, and I was out of my comfort zone.
Speaker 2:I was going to say that's our topic for tonight we're going to. This is month. We're starting month three of our making friends, our friendship plan.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 2:Month one was stepping out of your comfort zone, deciding what you want out of new friendships, how you can look for new friends in your community. Last month, step two was all about, you know, taking some action, saying yes to social invitations, getting out of your comfort zone again, maybe frequenting a local spot like a coffee shop or a bar or a gym or something also suggested, maybe engaging with co-workers. So first, before we start step three, we should kind of review what we did in the last month. Okay, does anybody have anything?
Speaker 3:I can go. So a couple of things. There's a woman here in town that I've known for years and we'll see each other every once in a while, and every time we see each other we always say, oh, we should, we should go have a drink, or we should meet for coffee or whatever. Um, and so we actually made it happen. Um, I asked again and the timing worked out. So, um, she and I met at four o'clock on Monday up at Heartbreakers. Um, I thought it was just going to be one glass of wine. Um, I am a little embarrassed to say that I don't know. It was probably around. Let's see, it was probably around 730. Bill had to come and pick me up.
Speaker 4:I love this for you, yes.
Speaker 2:Right, we had a good time.
Speaker 3:We chatted and chatted and chatted and chatted and um yeah, so I was not able to drive home and it made Tuesday a little less productive than I wish it had been. But uh, it was. It was fun and so I see us getting together again so that was one thing that I did yeah, did you schedule it?
Speaker 2:I have a feeling you know it well at for me, if it's not like a schedule or a hey, we're going to do this again in a month or two weeks, or whatever it'll be.
Speaker 1:You know all of a sudden, you'll find it yeah, yeah, months.
Speaker 3:Easier to go by the To go by the wayside. So she and her husband are leaving. They're leaving on a road trip for the whole month of April. So we said, all right, when you guys get back let's the four of us go. And you know, specifically called out a couple of restaurants. They live in Victoria. So you know, let's go hit Winchester and Rye or let's go hit the Noble Lion when you guys get back. So that's the action.
Speaker 4:That's as far as we could take it yeah, yeah, good, that's also really perfect timing, because now you can say I, we want to hear all about your trip. Yeah, tell us all about your trip. So I think sometimes that's what the fear is what are we going to talk about? Yeah, you, you know, especially if you're now going to bring your, your husbands or partners in, are they going to like them? You know it's, it's, it's a big deal for you, for us and somebody new, but now we're introducing, you know, our partners into it. That's the perfect situation where you will have topic of conversation to at least get you started and somewhere to go, yeah, yeah, exciting topic of conversation to at least get you started and somewhere to go.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, exciting.
Speaker 3:Good job, gold star, thank you gold star you probably wasn't all that happy with me, but that's another story oh, he'll get over it, it'll be fine.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mentioned a couple of things I was going to work on. One. Was you remember I said we invited a couple to go on vacation with us that we hadn't done much with for a while Went on vacation to Mexico. It was fabulous, we had a great time. So that was fun, kind of reconnecting, and you know getting back.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so that was fun. Um, the other one was I was going to you said hey, you should go hang out at Juniper and Olive, which is our little cocktail bar real close to here. I did that once. There was literally no one, no one, no one there, you know, to really connect with. You know what I mean, madison and I went.
Speaker 2:So it wasn't that it was the two of us and there was no. You know, it didn't look like we would, you know, talk to anyone else. There were just about three other tables and they were big groups. There was one group of like four different couples and they were obviously there just to talk to each other and a family at a table. They were obviously just there and no one other than the two of us sitting at the bar. So that you, that's that's a thing, you know it. It'll have to be a time when there's people it's busier people sitting at the bar looking for, you know, conversation type of thing. So, yeah, that'll take me, that'll take me a while. Can't go there just all the time. It's only open on weekends and only even some weekends.
Speaker 4:So there you go. But also it wasn't wasted because it's good practice. Oh, yeah, it's good practice and the next time you go easier. And then also a note in your head that like, if I want to talk to somebody, I need to be at the bar.
Speaker 2:Yes, because, oh absolutely, tables were not open for business right, that's exactly it and that, and I knew that that's where we sat. Yeah, um, and I've known that there's been times when I've been there when the bars, when the bar, you know, seating is packed and there's a hundred people, you know a bunch of people to talk to.
Speaker 3:It's just a bummer of a day yeah, do you know the people that own that own?
Speaker 2:the place yeah she wasn't there oh, yeah, oh yeah, you're off well I know she does, you know, you know, so she wasn't there. There, the couple of bartenders that were were busy, you know, because there was only then two, you know, without her and usually there's even more than that. So they were busy. So, yeah, no, it was fun. Anyway, madison and I always have a good time, but yeah, it was kind of a bummer that there was no one there to chat up.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'll have to try it again and I will. Good yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay, how about you, Amy?
Speaker 4:I went to my favorite little local bar by myself one night because it was on the way home and it was a nice enough night to walk on the way home and it was a nice enough night to walk. I sat right down kind of in front of the two TVs where I like to sit at the bar and you know there's single person, two seats, single guy, two seats. So I was going to end up sitting by somebody anyway. And I'm almost done with my meal and a man comes and sits down next to me because it had gotten a little bit bigger and he was debating about he was new, similar of age, debating about dessert and I had just finished their apple crisp.
Speaker 4:I must have been celebrating a sale, because that's usually when I go down and you know, get myself a glass of wine, a little bit of dinner and of course we struck up a conversation and I met Daniel, who was in for business and his son is just going to go to Harvard next year, and had just a nice conversation with him and got up to leave and he's like thank you so much, it's so nice to have met you. Oh nice.
Speaker 4:It's kind of fun. So I think that, like we've talked about before, when you're traveling, for some reason it's easier to just strike up conversations with people. Yeah, yeah, and he, I watched for the cues and he was, you know, not quite sure about the whole restaurant and you know I was at Red Cow and I kind of you know he goes. So what do you think about these three desserts? I'm like, mmm, not this one, this, these two are really good. So he was asking in my wheelhouse.
Speaker 4:The other thing I'm actually going to do Friday night is I'm going to a work retirement party, oh, with somebody that works on the construction side of things that I've talked to a few times in the past two years. I don't really run into him all that often, but he's been a mainstay at the company since you know he was probably like the third hire. Uh, so it's at Mystic Lake, so I probably will just drive over there after work and pop in and say hey and talk to my, talk to my coworkers a little bit and head home. Yeah, okay, yeah, I'm not really a casino person and you know they'll all have couples around and I'll be the singleton again, and so yeah, but still opportunity to see people.
Speaker 2:Maybe you don't very often network right with here, right you know?
Speaker 1:yeah and try and have a little.
Speaker 4:Be there, yeah, be there but, there are people that I have phone conversations with but I never have in-person conversations with, so I'm probably gonna have to do a little Google search to make sure I can put faces and names together.
Speaker 4:I kind of think maybe I should suggest that on everybody's signature line they have a photo of themselves, so when we're emailing each other back and forth we can at least have a face, because you know, you, your first week that you're there in training, you meet everybody and then you're gone and you don't know anything about the company to put any links together, to remember the faces and the names and what they do. And so now you know, months and months later, I have, you know, probably called two people the wrong name.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, yeah, that's a good one so we all did something. Yeah, we did, we did. I think part of the moral of the story is it takes a while and it's not easy and it takes some work.
Speaker 4:You know, takes a plan, yeah, and then you have to do it.
Speaker 3:You actually have to do it, yeah. And then you have to do it. You actually have to do it, yeah, yep. And once isn't enough. Oh, right, right, you have to keep consistency, right? I feel like I hear that word every time I turn around. And it's so true, it's, it's, it can be the secret sauce to so many things.
Speaker 2:Right, Yep, so month three. Here's what it suggests for month three Explore group activities. So it suggests join a recurring social club like a book club or a sports team or a language group. I don't know what a language group is sports team or a language group? I don't know what a language group is. What is a language group?
Speaker 4:well, if, like, if you wanted to go take classes on how to speak spanish, let's speak something else.
Speaker 2:All right, uh, volunteer for a community event or charity, attend a group fitness class like low yoga, cycling, martial arts, and the last one host a small gathering at home to practice your social hosting skills.
Speaker 4:There you go I think we're all pretty good at the social hosting skills. Yes, yeah, I think that, um, we have a pretty good success rate with the book club, because this podcast started from book club and long ranging funds, but you know, some of those other things that we got to go try and do event or charity would put you with people with your same interest.
Speaker 2:I think finding you know other people that you know in your community that are active in doing different things. I can see that as putting you close together with other people you know within your community pretty quickly.
Speaker 4:And it also gets back to the idea that you don't have something new to talk about. You have a subject right there. So you already have a connection point that you can build on. And if they're in your community, you probably have, you probably are going to recognize them at a minimum, or some people, so whether it's a neighbor or you know, your bank teller or grocery clerk or something like that. So that's a nice, that is a nice way in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's an interesting one.
Speaker 3:Yep, I went to the so I go to the post office every Monday morning with my packages and last week I walked in and there was another woman who was bringing some things in and we looked at each other and I just felt like I know this person. She looks really familiar, I've seen her somewhere and we both kind of you know when you're both trying to figure it out. And I said I feel like I know you and we, we kind of you know, said, oh well, you know, are your kids so well, you know Bo's much older than her kids are. So it wasn't that and we tried to compare a few things. We couldn't come up with it. But that was an interesting exchange because it didn't produce anything Right, it was short enough that it was just going to be oh well okay, have a good day, you know, but I don't know.
Speaker 3:Clearly, I've seen her somewhere and I I might see her again, and so now, the next time I do see her, we're going to do it again. We're going to be like all right, we're going to the same places here, maybe. Maybe we should know each other.
Speaker 4:Yeah. And then you can say I definitely know, I've seen you before. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm the post office answer. I'm your post office pal, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:But I mean I easily could have just walked away, I easily could have just said oh yeah, wow, that lady looks familiar. I don't know who it is.
Speaker 4:I had somebody come in during Parade of Homes. It's been Parade of Homes for the last month and that means Friday, saturday, sunday. There are probably close to 400 homes all around the metro area that are open for anybody to come and walk through. You don't have to have a realtor. A lot of people love to come in and just see what the new design trends are, what are the colors, what are the decorating. So I've had a lot of traffic in the last you know three weeks and a couple came in and I looked at her. I know, I know you, I know, I know you. We did the same exact thing. She wasn't.
Speaker 4:You know when you, when you're, when you're doing that and you're the salesperson with a name tag on, people don't really want to jump in quite as deep for fear that you're digging for them, but you know it was kind of fun. So, yes, I have seen people that I, I know and I like it, and also it's a little bit hard. Kitty, you probably have the same issue that I do. Nobody knows us as blondes. We've been in that area as brunettes for super long time and I changed my last name, so my name tag has a different last name than what they might put it together with daughters and stuff.
Speaker 4:So just other things to work through than what they might, you know, put it together with daughters and stuff. Yeah, you know just other things to to work through, but it makes it interesting the more you do it. You never know. You'd never know what the connection will be. And if they're, you know, just as sassy and smart alecky as I am, then that's a fun exchange. Yeah, it's a micro connection. Even if it's not a friend, it's a micro connection.
Speaker 2:Yep, it's a connection, that's right. Yeah, that is right.
Speaker 4:So in that list of stuff I find it really interesting Nobody that list didn't mention church groups. Yeah, I've been thinking about that a lot lately, how that's one of the, the things that I think parents or at least I remember my parents being super, super involved in was church, you know, and they're they, I would say the core of their friends came from, or at least started in church, and then they found out, oh yeah, they like to golf, they like to play cards, they like to do all these other things. So I did a little dive, but I'm just really interesting, interested. Have you noticed that in your friends, in your groups, in your communities, that that there isn't that organized religion?
Speaker 2:yeah, yes for sure, especially um, around us. Being a small town, everybody, everybody that goes to church, goes to Ames or Webster City. They go to a bigger city, you know, and go to church. I mean, there, there are, there are churches out, you know, there are churches in Jewel, there's some others close, but a lot of people do go to these different churches and it seems to be that there are very I don't know even what to call them the new type of christian church, not necessarily a denomination, but they're, yeah, they seem to be getting bigger and the you know, denominational church seemed to be dwindling. You know the, and I'm talking about the type of church that has daycare for kids. You know a coffee shop in the entryway. You know the very music and Big screens.
Speaker 2:Big screens, you know, that seems to draw um, you know younger people, I'll admit it you know, younger people with families, whereas the old-fashioned lutheran church like my mom goes to, for instance, there's no one, hardly anyone there. You know what I mean? Oh, I have a funny story. How about this? So a couple weeks ago went home and, um, you know, went to church with my mom and my brother now my mother was very active in church.
Speaker 2:You know she had to be the greeter of, of course, because she's always doing something. So she went early and then my brother and I went, you know, 20 minutes later and we walk in and sit down in a pew and she gets her greeting done and walks in and then doesn't sit by us.
Speaker 4:Oh, Because you didn't sit in her pew.
Speaker 2:Probably not, I don't know, and we just looked at each other like whatever, I don't know. I don't know if she forgot in that 20 minutes that we were there.
Speaker 1:I have no idea but it was.
Speaker 2:We looked at each other like wow, whatever, anyway. But I just but it was just a noticing that the people that were there were the same people. I remember going to church as a kid. I mean, you know, they're all in their you know 70s and 80s and there were no families. Families, no kids. You know what I mean? I just think that's lost the appeal to you know, families as part of a community. Yeah, it's interesting.
Speaker 4:So I called on the chat, the chat GPT and asked for a comparison to 1980s. You know the church, church goers breakdown by denominations, by regionality, trying you know just general demographics and they found something like 42% of Gen Z and millennials are are less religious than you know older they did. There was a statistic that did say as people get married and have kids they come back to the church. It shows up in more importance. Sure.
Speaker 4:And then it did say that Gen Xers are having a fall off as well. And you know, I'm like what's the correlation? Ask that of ChatGPT. What's the correlation? Why? Why are people? What are people citing? And a lot of it had to do with with what did they say? Dismay with organized religion. Some of the controversies that have happened, you know, abuse in the church and other criminal things that have happened. So as we get older, we get a little bit more um, we don't necessarily say we don't believe there's a more of an emphasis on spirituality versus organized religion organized religion.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:I think there. So, um, I haven't looked at the statistics on this for a while, but I remember hearing um, so we don't, we don't go to church anymore. Um doesn't mean that we're not religious, doesn't mean that we don't believe. You know all of that. We just, like around covet time, we just kind of petered off and and and just didn't go back um, but I remember there being a lot of conversation around um, church membership is going down and fewer and fewer people are going to church, et cetera. So, um, it has been interesting to watch this fluctuate um, because these younger generations are kind of coming back to it and they are wanting to be members of a church. Um, which is great, that's great. Um, which is great, that's great. And I think and you're right, amy. So you know, as we age, we get jaded by things and, you know, cynical about things and I don't want to. I don't want to be part of it anymore. So I'm just not going to go anymore, but doesn't necessarily mean that I'm no longer a Christian, right.
Speaker 3:And I think, and I think that's what it's been for me. I mean, I feel like, you know, I, I am a Christian. I, every single day, I'm saying a prayer, I'm talking. You know, I'm talking every day, every day. I said that to Bill one time, he goes. Really, I say prayers every single night before I go to bed.
Speaker 4:Yes, I do too, and one is the one that I learned when I was four years old or whatever. It's still the. It's like the opening to my conversation. Yeah, that's funny. Yeah.
Speaker 3:But same growing up for me. I mean, we went to church every Sunday. I was in youth group, I was in choir, I was in the bell choir, we did plays and that friend group that I developed there, those were. You know, we all went to middle school and high school together and we're still friends today. That's huge. So it is kind of sad if people aren't getting that. But I am encouraged by the fact that the numbers kind of seem to be turning around a little bit and the millennials and Gen Z, they're kind of going back to church.
Speaker 4:You mentioned COVID, and that was something that you know. Covid shut a lot of things down, but it also made it. Churches made the transition, like so many did, to online. Yes, so there has been obviously the increase in online services and now it's possible to watch services from all over the world. Not just you know your church in your town, so, um.
Speaker 4:But so, although you can get your your fix of religion, um, you know church that way, it doesn't make up for the community, which is what we're talking about. So, so it is a little harder for us and I'm sure it's harder for younger, I mean for everybody, to find these places of mutual, mutual interest, mutual commitment to something, um, maybe a level playing field. So we are going to. We do have to work harder, we do have to actually make an effort. Yep, yeah, I, you know. When you said the about your mom and you and your brother in church and I mentioned, you know, did you sit in the wrong pew? Oh, yeah, your families all have the same seat that you sat in every single time. Yeah, we did too, and so then you knew those families that sat around you as well. I mean, you knew everybody pretty much, but you really knew those families. Let's make a note of that mental note for one of our upcoming episodes where we talk about habits, superstitions. That's one of them.
Speaker 2:That is one.
Speaker 4:You have to sit in the same spot in church.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and then what? You know what happens? Someday you walk in and there's somebody sitting in your seat.
Speaker 2:Somebody else there?
Speaker 4:Yeah, Slide over people. What's with this guy?
Speaker 2:He's a bouncer. Yeah, over people. What's with this?
Speaker 4:guy yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you walk up to the pew and you'd look at him with this face Like what are you doing in our, in our seat?
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, by the way, the our church seat is on the opposite aisle that I always look for the airplane seats, so it's not I don't always have to be on the right.
Speaker 2:There you go. We're going to gonna go ahead and dive into the quirks. Yeah, it is. It probably is a little quirky the things that we do over and over and over. We're gonna call them habits, that they may be in their quirks oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:so this month we are going to um join some sort of organized event, is that is?
Speaker 2:that a big enough umbrella? Yep, that'll be a challenge. Yes, do something as a group with a group.
Speaker 4:Yeah, um, stacey, didn't. I see that there's some sort of jewel gala going on for all the shops in jewel. Yes, that is like.
Speaker 2:You should go. Yes, I know I keep seeing that every year and it's like gosh, why don't I do that? And then it's the next year and it's huh, I wonder why I don't do that. Yeah, they have a gala. It's like a fundraiser, you know. They get all fancy dressed up and yeah, that would be fun.
Speaker 4:It would be fun, yeah yep, if I didn't work on the weekends, I'd come down and go to the gala with you and we could go. I know I could. We could have the same picture in the dresses we wore to various weddings, right which would be about what it is, yep I have a navy blue dress. I have a black dress yeah, I know so.
Speaker 2:Yep, those are good ideas. We'll have to have to figure something out yeah all right, we're making headway on the friendship front we are and a review. This will be month three, so we will see how it goes. Like I said, we're in it for the long haul. We want to, you know, take step by step and then see what our progress is over an entire year, how we, you know, made connections, hopefully made new friends and shared with everybody else.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we're gonna have good stories. Yes, we will yep, I agree.
Speaker 2:Well, I think this can well. First does anyone first? Does anyone have a shot? Does anyone have a shot today?
Speaker 3:I do oh, hey, I do, and it comes along with a little related story, so I chose to hold this little part of the story back until I could share my shot. Okay, so I have a customer who oh, it's Deanna, and you guys know her. She was a guest on our show. Of course, okay, deanna always has the most beautiful nails, and I know this because she doesn't live here, she's across the country, but she posts photos in our group.
Speaker 2:And she does this, she always does this?
Speaker 3:Yes, exactly, she's always showing her jewelry and she's always doing this because she's showing her rings and her bracelet. And so even Bill has commented. He's like Deanna's nails are so pretty. So I asked her. I said do you go to the salon? What do you do? Like, deanna's nails are so pretty, like what? So I asked her. I said what do you go to the salon? What do you do? She said no, I use a press on nail and it's called Red Aspen and I've used it for three years and I use nothing but that.
Speaker 3:Like I would like to, I'd like to give that a try. So, cause I've been getting the dip nails and I, you know I love the way that they look. I don't like paying for them. Um, okay, so I start doing research on this brand Red Aspen and I find that there's consultants who lives right on the border of Chanhassen and Eden Prairie. So I sent her a message through her website or Facebook or something, and I just said hey, I've heard a lot about these nails. I'm interested in giving this a try. It looks like you and I are close together. Could we meet? So she and I went and met for coffee and she brought nails and that's what I'm wearing now. Put it up to the camera, let's see. Okay, the lighting is going to be hard here. There we go.
Speaker 3:Oh those look really nice, I've got a French manicure on today and I'm loving the product. I'm loving it. So a fraction of the cost, right? So these range between like $14 and $16 for a set and you know they'll stay on for a couple of weeks, two weeks ish. Um, they have all different colors and patterns and lengths Um, these are short. And patterns and lengths these are short.
Speaker 3:The first ones that I had on, I put them on right before St Patrick's Day. It was a really cool sort of a chrome green, gorgeous, but they were long, much longer than I am used to wearing. So two bonuses on this One, I'm loving the product. Um, and I'm going to do this for a while. It's kind of get my, my fingernails back to a healthier state, and also, I don't want to spend 50 bucks going and getting my nails done. Um, okay, that, and she's lovely. Um, we had a great conversation. I love that. She's super close. And so now we you know we we text each other when we change our nails. We text each other and we will, we will get together again, oh, nice very cool, yeah, nice.
Speaker 2:So how do you take them off? Yeah, how. And they really stay on for two weeks. Anytime I've done press on nails, they fall off in two days.
Speaker 3:Oh, I mean, I've had, you know, like today, my thumb popped off, but I just glued it right back on, and so, you know, depends on how much you're doing with your hands and what was the other question?
Speaker 2:Oh, how do you?
Speaker 3:get it off. So the cuticle oil. So you just have a little bottle of cuticle oil, so you just dab that around, just kind of let that soak for a little bit. And then I've got this little tool that almost looks like those little teeth flossers, little handle, and so you just kind of put that down right here and then just kind of rock it a little bit and it just kind of pops the nail off. Oh, interesting.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and so super easy to get on. Actually, here's the little tube of glue. The lighting is hard here. Yeah, light, yeah.
Speaker 2:The lighting is hard here.
Speaker 3:Yeah, light, yeah, it's like a typical, typical nail to do Yep, exactly. So I just put a little drop on the nail, flip it over, press it down, rock it back and forth a little bit and yeah, yep, yeah, I'll report back. Once I've had longer wear with them, I'll report back. Um, once I've had longer wear with them, I'll report back. But again, I mean deanna, she's been using them for two or three years and she's like it's, it's all I use, it's all I wear nice.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, very nice, and the name of it again was red aspen, red aspen and there are others too, and I see them.
Speaker 3:I see them all over my social channels. Now, olive in june was one of the first ones that came out and that you can get at target, but there's curve, curve life, and glamnetic makes nails now too, not just eyelashes, um. So there are quite a few, and I think they just they're getting better and better, um so, um, I think it's I, I, I like that. I like that because I, I did them originally, years ago too, like way back. I remember way back when I worked at capsule, I used the kiss brand that you'd find at Target and I loved the way they looked, but I just couldn't keep them on, keep them on.
Speaker 3:So, I think the product is getting better because, again, you know, sometimes people just they're just like I. I mean it's a time commitment to go to the salon as well. I'm not saying that I won't ever do it again because I love. I mean I love, loved my dip nails, but yeah.
Speaker 2:Cool, yeah, good to try. Yeah, how about you, amy? Do you have a shot?
Speaker 4:Other than I started the new Netflix series the Residence.
Speaker 3:Oh, did you start? That is it new.
Speaker 4:It is not the resident by shonda rhimes. It's kind of a white house detective who done it? White House detective whodunit. It's a little quirky, a little odd, but I've watched. I think I've watched four episodes, okay, maybe more than that. It's only eight episodes. I think I'm on number six, so I think it's worth watching. I know it's different than anything else that's out there, so it is a whodunit. I don't know who did it thus far. There you go. The characters are kind of funny, so give it a try. Give it a try.
Speaker 2:What the heck I'm still working my way through the oscar, way through the Oscar. Oh yeah, I would did watch a Nora. That was interesting. Okay, I still have to watch it. Yeah, I'm not, I won't say anything about it. Um, today when I got home from work I watched. Oh gosh, what's a real pain.
Speaker 4:Oh, did you like it? No, not a fan. See, it makes me look like I was a good travel companion, doesn't it?
Speaker 2:Yes, it does, because that was something I guess it just wasn't, you know, and of course it just wasn't very exciting. You know what I mean? I'm evidently more of an action and a thriller, and anything other than that kind of movie I don't even see. And that movie I don't think was nominated, was it? Was that nominated? The movie itself was not, but you know, lost it, kieran culkin, one best supporting actor, I wouldn't even say it was anything unusual. You know what I mean? It was okay, it was just okay. It was not stellar. So yeah, there's my review of that. Anyway, someday we really are going to have a you know post oscars after we, yes, we are all the movies in a couple weeks.
Speaker 2:Yes, we're going to have another discussion, so that's gonna.
Speaker 4:We'll put that on hold based on ann's uh ann's recommendations and synopsis. Yes, try some. I'm going to try some more.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yep, if anybody liked White Lotus, the new season of White Lotus is out. I don't have that.
Speaker 3:Is that on?
Speaker 1:Hulu.
Speaker 2:Is it. Hulu. It's on one of the ones I don't have. I think it is Hulu, I think it's Hulu, or is it Apple TV, I don't know. One or the other, yeah, anyway, okay, well, if we have nothing else. This concludes this episode of Three Cocktails In Cheers, my friends, cheers. We'll see you all next week.
Speaker 4:Woo-hoo, have a good week, all of us in pink Pink.
Speaker 1:Pink Bye. Turn it up loud. I know you're wondering how I got that wild. Here I go. Here I go, coming. I can't ever stop. I'ma tour the forest running. Get me to the top. I don't need an invitation. I'm about to start a celebration. Let me in Brought a good time for some friends. Turn it up loud. Past ten.
