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3 Cocktails In
Addicting conversations between friends who have been there, done that and still want more.
We are 3 friends who got this crazy idea to start a podcast based on our friendships, family lives, professional lives and experiences! This idea kept coming up in our conversations, especially after a cocktail or two or maybe three, and we finally decided to ACT on it!
We don't claim to be experts on too many things, but friendship? Well, we've got that down. We're making our way through major life changes, searching for work that excites us, busting myths associated with 'old' people, and keeping a sense of humor about it all.
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Amy, Kitty & Stacey
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3 Cocktails In
3 Cocktails In Galentine's Day Mixer
This podcast episode celebrates Galentine's Day and the significance of female friendships. With our group of fabulous guests, we share anecdotes about iconic female duos, discuss friendship love languages, and explore how our relationships evolve over time.
• Emphasis on Galentine's Day and its origin
• Discussion about iconic female friendships in pop culture
• Insights on acceptance and evolving friendships
• The importance of spending quality time together
• Reflections on acts of kindness and appreciation
so we have sherry tuning in from florida nice madison is in central iowa and jill where are you tuning in from? I'm downtown des moines all right, excellent, excellent.
Speaker 4:My friend mary k is going to be joining us, but she's getting her hair done so she might be a little late. Okay, um, gilly said she was gonna try. Okay, um, and my cousin jennifer should be on. I'm excited. I you know this is the whole thing. We send memes back and forth and messages, but do you think we'd call each other on the phone?
Speaker 1:no so we got some. Yeah, yeah, yeah, three cocktails in glass. Are you guys getting merch?
Speaker 4:yeah you like that I know um somebody got us those we have glasses.
Speaker 3:We have glasses and t-shirts.
Speaker 5:Yeah, oh, you have t-shirts yeah oh yeah, I know that I could wear it.
Speaker 4:It's kind of like ocean, yeah we're both um the podcast and general state of being yes, both the podcast and general state of being.
Speaker 5:Yes, okay, kitty, anyone else that was coming from the land?
Speaker 3:I think Deanna said that she might be able to join us. Who else was on my list? Gail Gail, rsvp. I sent the link to her. Marsha, I don't know about Marsha.
Speaker 4:Marsha Hartman.
Speaker 3:Oh, marsha Hartman, yes we have two Marshas that are in our our jewelry group. Yes, marsha Hartman is supposed to be here too.
Speaker 4:Marsha Hartman. Marsha Hartman, what was that show? There was a show, mary.
Speaker 5:Hartman's supposed to be here too. Marsha Hartman, marsha Hartman, what was that show? There was a show, mary Hartman, oh, Mary Hartman.
Speaker 4:I was thinking of Marsha, Marsha, Marsha. That Mary Hartman show was weird.
Speaker 5:Oh, for the time it played.
Speaker 4:It was just so bizarre. Like I didn't get it, of course, course, I was probably 12 at the time, so I wonder why? Yeah, um, madison, you were sharing a cocktail. What do you have?
Speaker 2:I have malibu, pineapple juice and grenadine.
Speaker 4:You are your mother's daughter.
Speaker 2:It is my favorite drink of all time.
Speaker 4:Very good, excellent. Yes, do you have your own stash of like little umbrellas that you can put in them to make you feel very festive at home?
Speaker 2:I don't, but I guess I should get some. I should have festive drink a little bit Right, hey Stace.
Speaker 4:add that to the three cocktails in merch list Custom umbrellas for our cocktails. Custom umbrellas, that'd be nice. There you go. Yeah, the fictional merch list that we've got going. Yes, yes, we'll see. Yeah, we have one minute till 7.30. Hopefully we have a couple others stay going in wearing, they'll get on.
Speaker 3:When they get on, you look fabulous. Look at you guys all blinged out.
Speaker 4:I know, stacy, stacy, you're rocking paparazzi, right, it looks I am I think I have yep, but what do you got and I have yeah, I have that one that kitty's wearing in gold. That's my favorite gold, but I hardly ever wear it. I do have that one that's cool. I love that one look at this.
Speaker 3:Look at this amazing bracelet right now that's a cool one, is that? All one piece. It's all one piece and it's five dollars, it's like um hello, your hair looks smashing oh my gosh, thank you.
Speaker 4:You feel just fabulous. What you feel just fabulous now with a new do. Oh, I feel amazing there we go um. This is my friend mary, who became my friend. I sold her a town home and she was all geared up in her vikings gear and we got to talking about it and it turns out she knows lori from knitting and baseball oh my gosh my world? I sure do. Yep, my sister goes with her to the opening game every year.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, yep, that's crazy.
Speaker 4:All right.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 3:Cool, all right, here comes Aaron. Hi, aaron hey.
Speaker 4:Aaron Welcome. Hello. Aaron is also from Central Iowa. It's funny how we know each other, because we have two mutual friends and those friends don't know each other.
Speaker 2:So we've been at the same thing, at the same time with different friends.
Speaker 4:It's just kind of funny, yep. So hello, welcome to you. Nice to meet you. Look at that. We love timely people who are just popping on at the last minute. That is so me. I got a phone call at 5 35 from a woman I met um during Super Bowl, who came and spent two hours with me during Super Bowl, and I have to take the phone, of course, but it was 10 to six and I'm still on the phone with her and I'm walking around my house turning out my model, turning off all the lights, thinking okay you know, we.
Speaker 4:we ended at six or five or 58 and I shut her down and drove like a wild woman all the way home Do you have snow like we do today. Do you have snow in Minnesota like we do. No Little dust Just a little dust out in.
Speaker 5:Alaska.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, we have probably five inches four or five inches One around today.
Speaker 1:I think we got about eight downtown or, you know, in the suburb.
Speaker 2:Yeah, ouch eight today, I think, at least I know I want to love snow the high snow day sorry not a thing, got a snow day yeah, I got a snow day, so did sawyer his daycare clothes too oh how fun, how fun.
Speaker 4:Well, ladies, we want to welcome you three cocktails in wants to welcome you to this very official and highly sophisticated celebration of galentine's day, because you know we are all about sophistication here. Um, I hope when you came in you had a chance to peruse the buffet that I put together. Fix yourself a cocktail. It's a little cocktail bar that was over there. Do you guys know the history of Galentine's? Oh, gilly, so Gilly's connecting Ellen went to college with Kitty and I and we sang in choir with her. So you know, miss Ellen.
Speaker 2:Ellen.
Speaker 4:Hello, how are you yourself? There we go. Ellen does beautiful balloon arrangements. You have balloons in your house this last weekend I have had a lot of work lately.
Speaker 6:It's been very nice actually.
Speaker 3:That's so cool.
Speaker 5:Thank you.
Speaker 3:She makes amazing balloon creations for parties and yes, etc.
Speaker 4:So I had her do one. Did you guys see it when you walked in to the party?
Speaker 3:No, I missed it. Oh geez yeah some of these things just don't translate in virtual events, unfortunately, yeah I miss the buffet. I miss the cocktail bar, I miss the balloons.
Speaker 4:So yeah, well, you're really gonna be bummed because there are some sweet swag bags. Yeah, mostly they're the goodwill bags that I still haven't dropped off, but you know, yeah, so, uh, galentine's day. The origins of galentine's day is from leslie nope of parks and rep parks and rec. One of our favorites, amy poehler, came up with this. It is the day before valentine's day. It's to celebrate women and friendships and give shout outs to people that you think are awesome. And, um, considering that's what we really like about three cocktails in, you'll notice there aren't any men that are svp'd even though we do you know respond, but cheers, cheers, cheers to us.
Speaker 4:So we kind of talked about a little bit how everybody kind of knows each other. Um, like I mentioned, ellen kitty and I went to college together and sang in college choir together and toured Russia, czechoslovakia, poland and Sweden. Oh wow, that was quite an experience.
Speaker 6:And Estonia and.
Speaker 4:Estonia. I missed Estonia. I was very, very sick in Estonia, so I didn't leave the room.
Speaker 3:so I didn't leave the room we, we, we stood in the gas chambers at auschwitz, oh way to bring the party down.
Speaker 4:Yeah sorry, I just I mean yeah, we ate black market snickers traded them for tang yeah and watched people sell jeans illegally yep yep, so and brushed our teeth with coke? Yes, we did, because you couldn't drink the water. Yeah, so just imagine so there we go.
Speaker 3:There's a little bit about this little bond that exists, yes so, um, okay.
Speaker 4:so let's start this off pretty easy, as we talk about friendships and female friendships Iconic female friendships. Can you guys think of any? Do you have a favorite?
Speaker 5:Laverne and Shirley.
Speaker 4:Yes, love Laverne and Shirley. Do you think that you could so, laverne and Shirley? For the young pup here with us, um, there are these two women who were friends, who lived together and they worked at a beer brewing facility. Do you think you could live with a best friend now, same, same house, not adjoining condos or townhouses? Could you do it? Do you have a friend you could do that with, like at my age?
Speaker 6:oh yeah, oh no no I don't think I can live with anybody right now.
Speaker 4:I don't want to. Oh, isn't that funny. So do you think at some age you could have yes, yeah.
Speaker 5:Yeah absolutely Long time ago, not college age, but like 40.
Speaker 1:Depending on the situation.
Speaker 4:You guys remember that show, All show alley and it was short-lived but it was about two divorced moms that had kids and lived together yes, yes, yes vaguely yeah vaguely. Yeah, it'd be some support at least. Yeah, exactly. Um, I do have two sisters in my neighborhood that bought a house together and are living together, you know.
Speaker 6:I'm not surprised, though. It's getting hard for people to live by themselves. I have a lot of teacher colleagues that are single and they room together because they can't afford to live in housing by themselves. Yeah, or they live with their parents.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it was Kate and Allie. I'm sorry, I Google everything. Thank you, it was 1984 to 89 and I watched that show. It was very good.
Speaker 4:I did watch it too With the kids, they had kids. Children too. Sherry clearly is in the spirit of Three Cocktails In where we Google on the fly, yeah.
Speaker 3:That's how we do it. Thank you, sherry. Yeah, she's fast with fingers, so she'll be good resource for us tonight.
Speaker 4:Yeah, the other one that always makes me laugh Lucy and Ethel Yep, rachel and Monica.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, rachel and we oh, yeah, yeah. Rachel and together yes although I didn't see them quite as the friend pair who wait, I missed what did you?
Speaker 3:say Rachel and Phoebe when they lived together they lived together for a short period of time. Yeah, and yeah, I mean, they were they. They were very compatible roommates, yes um. So uh, rachel and monica opposites, opposites attract yeah, yep, very much I think, so like I'm yeah in your friend groups now, do you have friends that are opposite of you?
Speaker 4:absolutely yes does it make it easier not always.
Speaker 3:I mean, let's be honest, not always, but always but this is where this is where that the whole Mel Robbins let them theory can come in handy. And I think, you know I, as I observe myself as I have aged, there are so many things that I can just let go that would have I would have stewed about years and years ago and it's you know, it's just not worth it. So I think it's great. It seems like I don't know if I just feel more tuned into it or people in general are just more accepting of differences. Now, granted, I mean what you guys know, we never talk politics and we don't talk religion on our podcast.
Speaker 3:Certainly there are people who are not accepting of others' choices and opinions and whatever, but I think generally we talk about that a lot during our conversations just how much easier life is if you're just accepting of people in the way that they are.
Speaker 6:I feel that's the way we're going. We're going to go anyway. I think we're going to have enough conflict and people getting tired of things that I think we're going to start realizing we got to start taking care of each other and be kind to each other.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 6:Yeah.
Speaker 4:I do think about Stacey and I on our trip to France and the other thing about having a really long time. Good friend, is you gotta, you gotta take it when they tell you you're screwing up or you're bugging the crap out of them, you to let them tell you that's right. I think we could. I think we could stand to live together. I mean, we'd have some up and downs but we'd, you know, you know, I just I'd just get over it and you'll just, you know, accept it.
Speaker 4:We'll just you know what I mean and we'll just go on. I think we could we could do it. Yeah, I this is so weird, but I see some definite tendencies between you and I that I did with my ex-husband and I yes, we both had some differing opinions on things and we used to battle it out and at the end we're like whatever, whatever.
Speaker 4:Yeah, kitty has called us an old married couple before before because we've known each other so long she goes. Oh my gosh, you guys talk to each other like you're an old married couple. Yeah, pretty much. Yeah, do you guys? Does anybody else have the, the partner, the old married couple friend, that other people don't quite understand the friendship? Or but are you're like nope, she's my ride or die, it's all gonna work. No, I don't you guys are all kind people oh no, I tell it like it is.
Speaker 6:I think that's why they like me.
Speaker 4:Oh, that's funny, never a dull moment. Yeah, one of my favorite, my favorite famous couples Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. I just love those two women. I love them for everything that they've written. I especially love the movie Baby Mama. So stupid but so funny. And what were? They also were in one. There was sisters where they were two sisters, yes, and their mom and dad went and the mom and dad were selling the house and they threw one last party oh yeah 30 some year olds yeah that's a good movie.
Speaker 4:You know it's not going to win any awards. It didn't win any awards, but just for fun yep, madison, what would you say? The iconic friendship duo of your era is that's a hard question.
Speaker 2:Um, I don't know. I really don't know, because when you asked the question, I just thought of, um, the girls from friends, rachel and Monica, but I'm not even a big friends lover, so I've been trying to think of someone. I have no idea where did you um?
Speaker 4:did you watch what was the one with Blake Lively, gossip Girl did?
Speaker 2:you. Yes, gossip Girl yeah, that's a good one. Serena and Blair.
Speaker 4:Yep, that was mentioned and what's the well? I mean, if you go way back, it could be Hannah Montana and her sidekick.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, Spend a lot of years watching that.
Speaker 6:You guys watched a lot of TV, you guys watched a lot of TV.
Speaker 4:I had three daughters. I didn't watch watch them. I knew they were on, but you know that one does um Dawson's okay so there was, I'm sorry.
Speaker 5:I'm sorry. Sorry, go ahead. Yeah, dawson's Creek was one.
Speaker 4:Yes, is that the in-between generation? Is that older than you, madison?
Speaker 5:I don't know, dawson's Creek you best have to be in
Speaker 4:your 30s, 30s probably does.
Speaker 1:That's probably Mallory. Could be, could be.
Speaker 4:All right, ladies, Speaking of celebrities, if you could pick one fictional character dead actually anybody famous, dead alive that you were stranded on a desert island with who's going to be your friend, who's going to be the lifeline? That you were stranded on a desert island with who's going to be your friend? Who's going to be the lifeline that you're calling Somebody famous? Well, could be famous, Could be somebody you know. Are you going for?
Speaker 4:somebody that knows how to build the raft and fish. Are you going for somebody for knows how to build the raft and and fish? Are you going for somebody for pure entertainment value?
Speaker 3:uh, I'm, I'm gonna reach out to tom hanks it's supposed to be a woman.
Speaker 4:We're talking about female friendship here. I that one alone that built the rock house. I't remember his name. But if we need a woman, then I have to read, Not a diva. I don't think a diva kind of woman would be a good choice. But no, I would pick Reese Witherspoon because she has a book club and loves to read and I love almost everything that she puts out and she would just sit quietly and read and I would sit quietly and read and that would be my dream day. And she also did that movie where she walked the Appalachian Trail wild. So she probably has got some skills as to know how to do some stuff.
Speaker 4:At least she has the money to hire somebody to do yes as well. That's that as well ann hathaway okay, and why? Why? Why ann?
Speaker 5:well, I think, more for just fun value. All her movies are really fun and she's so upbeat. She's living a long time, her short life, I think. I mean she's not that old, is she?
Speaker 4:no, what do we figure out? 41, 40, 40, yeah, something like that, 40 low 40 yep, this is a hard question, it is it? Is did you guys ever watch the tv series? Uh, burn notice. Yes, I think I'm taking fiona she knows how to do stuff, man. She's a hired hitman sort of thing, but she knows how to do all sorts of stuff. I'm going for skills, because I don't have a lot of them when it comes to outdoor survival. Yeah, I can make s'mores.
Speaker 6:Jodie Foster. Oh, that'd be good.
Speaker 2:Really good one.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that'd be good.
Speaker 3:I'm going to make an executive decision here and say that it can be the character also.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:So then I would pick Bethh beth from yellowstone that's a good one I'm also taking her with any time I've got some sort of serious work done. Yeah, yeah, she's so good good call, like if you have to bury a dead body, it's going to be buffed up.
Speaker 6:She's a rule follower, rule bender and a rule breaker.
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 4:My type of woman, Kind of like that Madison. Who are you taking?
Speaker 2:I would take the main woman from the series Lost. I cannot for the life of me think of her. Oh yeah, my husband and I we rewatched that show and it's one of our favorites and she would definitely help in A Stranded Island.
Speaker 4:Yeah, that is a good one. Yeah, uh-huh. How about you, jill?
Speaker 1:Well, did any of you watch the series Schitt's Creek? Oh, yeah, yeah. How about you jill? Well, did any of you watch the series schitt's creek? Oh, yeah, yeah. So I loved the character alexis and I think I liked her because obviously she had led quite the life but then she loses everything and then has to rebuild herself up and then she discovers herself. But then I loved her humor, I loved her relationship that she, you know, just learned.
Speaker 4:I would pick Alexis. That's really good. Great answer, good call, yeah, and that was besides that she figured out how to get home from a Saudi. Arabia's. You know, I don't know I got. I love those stories which is like I was somewhere, somewhere and everybody was like what? Yeah, it's just funny. I'm going to go out of the regular and I'm taking Stacy with me Because Stacy knows how to do everything.
Speaker 4:Okay, she can do everything. No, okay, he can do everything. Oh no. Have you never heard me say that if I can't fix it with um hot glue or duct tape, I'll throw it away?
Speaker 2:we have those with us.
Speaker 4:You know, I've seen you make mud pies. We can make real food. Yeah, I did, and you're stubborn as much as I am, so I know you'll figure it out. Yes, we won't. We won't fail. We'll fail a couple times, but eventually we'll get it. Yeah, we'll keep working until we get it. Yeah, yeah, remember, I said I wasn't gonna take a, so that's the problem there. Oh, so you can't take me not a diva sometimes no, not every day so
Speaker 4:speaking of our friends, our, our own personal friends here. Um, somebody asked the question what's your friendship love language? Do you have a friendship love language? What do you do? So I always think love languages are in two parts giving and receiving. How are you, how do you show good friendship, care, good friendship, love? What's your superpower? Listening, oh yep Wonderful. Do you offer advice or do you just know how to listen? Both Depends on who it is. Yeah, you know what my friend is and what it is they're talking about. Like, can I relate to what they're going through? Do I have any good advice or is it just that they just need to talk and share?
Speaker 2:Share.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and sometimes you have to be able to pick up on. Are they asking me for advice or do they just want to share?
Speaker 4:Right, yeah, we do a lot of sharing on this show.
Speaker 5:That's good.
Speaker 4:We spout a lot of advice. I don't know if any of it's taken. We do Unasked for the best kinds.
Speaker 1:yep, yep I think for me, um and granted, like stacy and I, we we belong to like a group and I think what I really appreciate about that group is obviously we've known each other for a very long time but I feel like we're safe with one another and sharing. If it's good, bad ugly, I think we're there for one another. So I really appreciate that. The trust tree.
Speaker 4:No yeah.
Speaker 5:I think mine is caring. If they need something, beg, borrow, steal, get it. You know I'm there. I've helped people do lots of things I mean not in the last five years probably, well, because physically I can't do a lot of that but you know, just caring for other people, which is that yeah mine is acts of service.
Speaker 2:Giving and receiving is acts of service. So I think for friends I like to provide help in any way I can. Thank you Nice.
Speaker 3:Kit what were you thinking so I don't think that I've ever thought about this before. I know friends of mine who their love language is giving, gifting something, and so I've thought about it, but I don't know that I've ever really thought about it myself until I kind of looked at the questions. Um, for tonight, and I think for me it's just spending time together, so like when I feel like together, so like when I feel like I am, you know, missing, missing one of you, one of you guys. It's hey, let's go do something, and hopefully it's time that you're. You know you're, you're moving out of your, you know it's not here, it's not at their place, it's going somewhere and you know, our phones stay in our purse and we're just there together and catching up and talking, and sometimes not talking, but just just time spent together. Yeah.
Speaker 4:And when I was going through that horrible divorce yeah, and when I was going through that horrible divorce well, not the horrible divorce, but prior to it and I was so anxious Kitty came over and we walked, we walked and walked and walked, and sometimes talked about nothing. Sometimes I cried and sometimes it was prancers sizing on video, which we should dig that out on video, which we should dig that out and share.
Speaker 6:So, yes, time spent, yeah, you know, I, my kitty, just kind of made me think about something too. I used to be a gifter as well. I would gift things or I would be actively involved in something for somebody else. But as I've gotten older, I've kind of changed that a little bit. I'm more just available and listening, and I guess I'm older than some of the people that I'm friends with. So perhaps an advisor or give them sorry, the cat's really having some fun, gotta move the wine but I feel like I'm more there to listen and to give advice. At this point it's changed as I have changed yep, I think that's possible.
Speaker 4:I'm probably the a gifter would be a part of it, but I agree. You know I've probably gotten better at. I hope I've gotten better over the years of listening, Cause I wouldn't have been it wouldn't have been that years ago, I'm sure I'd like to think I'm kind of the words of affirmation. I love when somebody's you know embarking on something new or they're unsure about something and they're sharing. I love to be the one that says, of course you can do that. Hell, yes, you can do that. Why couldn't you do that?
Speaker 4:You'd be awesome at that, I think you know, and maybe some ways that's kind of a cheerleader sort of thing but, I, think we could all use a little bit of that, and I know that I love to have somebody say to me you are so good at that. But you know, because it in part it also means somebody is paying attention to what you're doing and notice, and I mean I live by myself so I don't get that very often.
Speaker 4:But um, you know, I had this little. I sent out a weekly newsletter with work and I had one that like five minutes after I sent it out, this woman sends back to me. She goes you are so good at this, will you write my newsletters? You know, and I've met her in person like twice over three years. I've had a couple of, like you know, phone calls with her trying to drum up some business between the two of us.
Speaker 4:But that just made my day yeah, it made me so happy to have somebody say you are so good at that yeah it's such a simple and easy thing to do to say to somebody you know.
Speaker 2:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 5:So, yeah, Kitty empowers a lot of women in her business. I don't think she realizes how much she does, but and she remembers when people are sick or it's just.
Speaker 4:it's really nice to be acknowledged to know that somebody's somebody's paying attention.
Speaker 3:Yeah yeah, yeah, because I think the the reality is and we we did a whole episode on the topic of loneliness the reality is that there are so many people out there that are lonely and it doesn't mean that they don't have friends, um it it. For whatever reason there is, there can be a loneliness that can simply be filled by somebody, just you know, like you know, being that cheerleader and saying, yes, you can do that. Or, wow, you look great today. Oh, I like your, I like that top. Where did you get that? These little things can make such a huge difference in people's lives and it just they can just kind of make you sit up a little bit straighter in your day Wonderful.
Speaker 4:You know it makes me think about, in my office, work. So sometimes work friends are hard. You know there's that fine line between do you just work together? Are you work friends If you didn't? Line between, do you just work together? Are you work friends? If you didn't work together, would you still be friends? Um, my sales office is. We all kind of have our own little areas, but anytime somebody makes a sale they shout it out to everybody. So while we're not like pitted against each other, you are well aware of who's selling and who hasn't had a sale for a while. And we're in communities all around the metro area. So we see each other once every two weeks at a sales meeting. But there are some women and one man who anytime I get a sale, they shoot me an email and they shoot everybody one. It's not just me, but sometimes it's a funny little you know gift, sometimes it's a message and sometimes it's just like you go, girl, or way to go, you're killing it and that little bit again makes such a big deal.
Speaker 4:I mean you're really good. So do you guys find yourself doing that at all to other people, whether it's work or element? Sure, with younger, with younger teachers, they probably could always love to have somebody say you got this, you know you know that was a good idea yeah, I even do it to students oh yeah yeah, students could really hear that. Need to hear that a lot, I bet.
Speaker 2:Yep, yeah, I love building relationships with students and really building up those kids, especially as teachers. You know who needs it the most and that's actually part of my ICDP research this year. We have to do it as teachers and mine's like building relationships with students and making a meaningful impact with them through the year. And those students I just love when they get excited about art or because I said, oh, I love your shirt, or whatever. It definitely changes their whole day as a young, young kid yeah, yeah, being a student is hard, being young is hard.
Speaker 4:Yeah, we think being old is hard. Our ailments are, our woes are often physical. Young kids. It's a lot of emotions. Yeah. One kid said do we have to talk about emotions, feelings?
Speaker 3:Isn't that what Ava used to say to you yeah, all the time Do we have to talk about feelings. Amy's youngest daughter is like no, don't want to talk about feelings. Yeah, I think I've told you guys this before Whenever I see a school bus drive by, I get kind of a sick feeling in my stomach. And not because I didn't hate school, I mean I was. School was okay, I had. You know, I had a good experience in elementary, junior, high and high school, but school was tough for my son. Those years were not pleasant here in our house and so whenever I see that school bus go by, I think about the kids on that bus and and I think about you know, are there kids on that bus that were struggling in the way that Bo was struggling and not wanting to go and the you know the struggles that we had here at home because of it? That's why I just so I feel for kids too. It's.
Speaker 6:I feel it's terrible. You know it's not the way it used to be when we all went to school. It just really is. I know things might've not been easy for some, but nowadays it's really hard for these kids. They're just not kind to each other. You know they joke around about things, thinking it's funny, but I always have to keep telling myself hurt people, hurt other people, and so you got to really take it with a grain of salt, figure out how to warm in there and make everybody feel as comfortable as possible. But, like you are right, it's very difficult for these kids. I would not want to be a student these days. I would not. I don't think I would survive very well. Yeah, want to be a student these days? I would not.
Speaker 4:I don't think I would survive very well yeah so, as we talk about doing nice things for people, can you guys think of um something, one of the nicest things a friend has ever done for you? That was just total surprise, or something that you recent past, long ago.
Speaker 6:Well, I had a girlfriend, my friend, my colleague, one of my colleagues just went on a trip to Arizona and they went her husband does woodworking like makes those beautiful wood trays like out of cherry wood and just some gorgeous things and they went to get some rocks and geological things that he embeds in his pieces and she brought myself and the other sixth grade teacher, a beautiful I think it's called murkite stone. It's red and yellow. It was the most beautiful thing and it has some like really cool spiritual meanings and all sorts of things. Um, but it was just a gift out of the blue which made it really kind of fun and I just got that actually yesterday yeah, but I thought that was cool well, I have a female female co-worker.
Speaker 4:We don't work at the same location, in fact we're two hours away from each other but she's fairly new at her job and so she asked me questions. You know it's getting less and less because it's been a couple years since she started, but anyway she is so good at saying I so appreciate you. I appreciate you because you can help me do this. You know, instead of just saying the typical okay, thanks, you know, she's always. She always says that with it. You know, I so appreciate you, and that's a hard one to remember. I, I think to say to people yes, much better use of the words I appreciate you than the guy who was ghosting me, who would respond to something that I said or sent him with I appreciate you.
Speaker 5:Didn't have the same meaning yeah, always yeah didn't have the same meaning yeah, boy, yeah.
Speaker 4:I had a. You know, when I had my surgery a couple years ago, stacy came up, kitty came and visited me. Um, the thing that surprised me the most and made such it was. It was one of those moments, as when, the week before my surgery, I was talking to Madeline, my oldest, who lives in Houston, and I was kind of telling her what was going on. And, granted, my surgeon didn't tell me everything, because surgeons are really good at surgery but they're really bad at telling you what's going to happen afterwards. And I was telling her oh, I guess they're going to be like cutting my chest open and then I'm not supposed to do X, y and Z. And she says to me on the phone you have totally undersold this procedure and I think that you're going to need somebody to help you. So I am going to be arriving on Monday I've already cleared it with my bosses and I will be staying with you for 10 days.
Speaker 4:Yeah, and that was such a wonderful gift of of my adult daughter who you know that was. That was really cool and very different, because I still had to tell her yesterday you need to get your own phone plan. You're 31 years old, but two years ago she and and she came and she did laundry and cooked and told me that I needed to go take a nap and I got to listen to her work and be on the phone. You know the phone and when do you get to see your adult kids at work? You never get to see your adult kids at work. So that was really a wonderful unexpected gift that I was able to receive. And you know, I'm hoping at some point I get to go stay with her and help her for like 10 days or something, but as of the not yet, that's a good one.
Speaker 3:I'm still thinking.
Speaker 4:Still thinking. I know it doesn't have to be anything big. Just you know those, sometimes those little unexpected surprises. I appreciate you a rock they thought of you. They're out there doing something and thought of you and thought, oh, ellen would love this yeah and it wasn't even a rock like it's a full big piece like that.
Speaker 6:Yeah, it's something that's unique.
Speaker 3:Yeah, very cool very nice um, I'm curious, mary, what are you knitting?
Speaker 4:a sock, oh, those are on spaghetti noodles, aren't they Size one needles, Size one nine inch circular? Sorry, the light is really bad.
Speaker 3:I don't have my light on, because I don't like it on.
Speaker 4:Did you? Did you knit the blanket behind you? My mother crocheted this beautiful. Love it. He has since passed, so this is my, this is my mom. I like that sweet. Okay, should we finish this off with a game of who said it? Oh my gosh, yes, let's do it. Okay, all right. Um, who's who was where? Would this have been heard on sex and the city? Or the golden girls? Oh god, okay, and um, just for a little bit of relevance, the women who were on the Golden Girls at the time they were playing, those old women were like in their 40s and early 50s, so not so much difference than the women on Sex in the City.
Speaker 4:If you can tell me who said it, there's extra bragging points for you as there is no prize. Okay, you? Don't get blown off the table. Off the table. Yes, yes, you can take your first pick of the swag bag, as you leave okay, um, I like my money where I can see it hanging in my closet.
Speaker 6:Golden girls I would say that too who Rose?
Speaker 1:are we supposed to say who?
Speaker 4:or just the show doesn't matter if you think you know who it was Carrie on Sex and the City. It was Carrie. Erin wins, erin gets the first prize of the night. Okay, number two. I'm not one to blow my own horn, but toot, toot, toot golden girls, golden girls. Correct any guesses on who it is?
Speaker 5:the author betty white no, come on.
Speaker 4:Who thought she was all that?
Speaker 5:and the bag of chips uh-oh mod blanche blanche, I can't remember her name, mod, yeah, their names.
Speaker 4:Um, you're not old, you're 50. That's not old. You're not old until you hit 60, which is middle-aged I'm gonna guess sex in the City.
Speaker 1:We were talking to Samantha, I would guess.
Speaker 4:Because weren't they older than that? On the Golden Girls, 50 seems too young. So do we have one of? Do we have two? Sex and the.
Speaker 5:Cities. I think it was Golden Girls. Yeah, golden Girls, more than.
Speaker 4:Oh, you guys thought it was golden girls. That's right, um. If you said golden girls, you're wrong. No, you're right, it was golden girls. Okay, um.
Speaker 3:Sophia the mother says that yeah, one of the younger ones, yep um, oh, this one.
Speaker 4:This one should be easy. I swear with god as my witness, I will never live in a landlocked state again sex in the city that's an easy one I am, you wouldn't call that easy oh, I know, okay, who is it kitty?
Speaker 3:well, it's golden girls, right?
Speaker 4:yep, and it's got to be betty white's character yes, yeah, was she from minnesota and went to saint she went to saint olaf, yeah that she always called saint olaf olaf.
Speaker 3:Yeah, for those of so Sherry won't know this. So yeah, so she was from she, her character was in Minnesota. Saint Olaf is a Lutheran no. Yeah, yeah, lutheran, it's the. Norwegian Lutherans yeah, norwegian Lutherans. So that would have been the competitive college to the. To the college that Amy and Gilly and I went to Sorry, we still call you Gilly.
Speaker 6:Yeah, I have friends that still call me Gilly.
Speaker 4:Okay, and our college was the Swedish college. I'm not Swedish at all, that's right.
Speaker 3:It was just so funny that that was part of her character. It was so random. Like the majority of the viewers, they didn't know what Sam was. No, and just like nobody knows.
Speaker 4:They all think the college is Gus G-U-S, davis D-A-V-I-S. Like it's a pay-per-view, like it's one of those pay colleges, for-profit colleges, no, no, it's Gus. Davis one of those colleges, for-profit colleges? No, it's gus davis. I never saw this before, but that's like yeah where people would come up with that yeah so you went to gus davis um another one.
Speaker 4:Let's get something straight. My hair. Hair is not gray, it's winter wheat. Golden girls, golden girls, golden girls, blanche, the only thing I've ever successfully made in the kitchen is a mess and several small fires. Sex in the city.
Speaker 1:I think sex in the city, sex in the city, I think sex in the city, sex in the city.
Speaker 4:Let's see. I think I've got just like two. I've got three left. Okay, maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with them.
Speaker 6:sex in the sex in the city?
Speaker 4:I would think samantha no, that was actually carrie bradshaw oh, wow I kind of like that one. Um, I'm a trisexual, I'll try anything once.
Speaker 6:Sex in the city.
Speaker 4:The redhead on sex in the city. Oh that was Samantha, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4:Wild Samantha, I don't have a fear of commitment, I have a fear of abandonment.
Speaker 5:Sex in the city. Yeah, sex in the city that was Miranda. Yes, yes, yeah. Sex in the city that was miranda yes, yes.
Speaker 4:Well, I don't know if everybody I I'm just gonna say it, everybody was a winner, you're all winners with three cocktails in I knew none of those. I was no have you not watched sex in the city? No, oh, I bet that was before your time oh definitely yeah for your time, but I might still get a kick out of it oh, I think so I'll add it to my list.
Speaker 4:It's very good yeah, and they're short episodes, so that's the other thing too. Don't you get excited when the episodes are only like 35 minutes long? Yes, very much all right, ladies.
Speaker 5:Thank you so much right here with us.
Speaker 3:So yeah, and so just again, so that everybody knows. So this, basically, is the episode that we're going to drop tomorrow so, so you're all going to be internet famous tomorrow.
Speaker 2:It's going to be viral, I'm sure Right.
Speaker 3:Yes, so yeah, thank you guys for listening or watching and following along. We're grateful for that, as we're well into our second year now and it's just so fun to meet people and connect and look at all of us who've made new friends here tonight. So, thank you, thank you for that. Yeah, awesome, that was fun.
Speaker 4:That's fun. You know to all our. You know to all the women in our lives. You know whether it be our mothers, our sisters, our daughters women in our lives. You know whether it be our mothers, our sisters, our daughters, women. We work with our best friends from 50 years ago or this year. You know. Cheers to all of the women yay cheers women pity stacy amy for doing an awesome thank you, you're very welcome happy galentine's day galentine's everybody bye.
