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3 Cocktails In
Addicting conversations between friends who have been there, done that and still want more.
We are 3 friends who got this crazy idea to start a podcast based on our friendships, family lives, professional lives and experiences! This idea kept coming up in our conversations, especially after a cocktail or two or maybe three, and we finally decided to ACT on it!
We don't claim to be experts on too many things, but friendship? Well, we've got that down. We're making our way through major life changes, searching for work that excites us, busting myths associated with 'old' people, and keeping a sense of humor about it all.
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Amy, Kitty & Stacey
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3 Cocktails In
From Poolside Cocktails to Public Predicaments: This One Took a Turn.
Las Vegas, a destination synonymous with excitement and escapades, recently became the backdrop for an unforgettable getaway. Amy and Kitty unwound under the desert sky, where poolside cocktails and the mesmerizing sound waves of a Dead & Company concert at the Sphere made for the ultimate work-play experience. From the hilarity of vacation math to the sobering absence of poor Stacey who had too many work commitments to attend, we weave through the tapestry of our journey's lighter moments and the poignant ones that had us wishing she was there to share the laughter.
Navigating the glitz and glamour of Sin City, our conversations took a turn towards the subtleties of age dynamics and social responsibilities. We pondered over the generational dance of respect and roles redefined. Yet, in the face of Vegas' family-friendly veneer and adult-focused allure, we questioned our moral compass upon encountering a visibly intoxicated woman. The dilemma of when to step in and the role of establishments in ensuring guests' safety became a central theme, revealing the intricate social contracts we all silently sign.
Car dealership woes and the nuances of public etiquette rounded out our discussion, as we shared tales of unexpected charges and the conundrums of handling disruptive behavior. From debating the merits of confronting unruly children to recognizing the moment to call upon a higher authority, we peeled back the layers of everyday predicaments. Wrapping up with a heartfelt thank you to our listeners, we invited them to join the conversation, share their wisdom, and continue this journey of shared experiences and mutual growth.
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Amy, Kitty & Stacey
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All right, I'm a tour de force running. Get me to the top. I don't need an invitation. I'm about to start a celebration.
Speaker 3:Hello, my friends. Hello, how are you guys?
Speaker 4:Doing great.
Speaker 3:Good, it's been such a long time since I saw you, kitty Hi 48 hours.
Speaker 4:I know, did you say the other day.
Speaker 3:You've been 48 hours.
Speaker 5:I know I came home and laid down and went to sleep for about three hours.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes, let's get into it, ladies. Let's have another riveting conversation by three friends who have been there, done that and still want more conversation by three friends who have been there, done that, still want more. Your co-host at the Three Cocktails In podcast. I'm hoping we have some new listeners after our week in Vegas, talked many times about the podcast with my co-workers and they asked a number of questions Well, what do you talk about? What's it all about? Good, we talk about you all the time.
Speaker 5:Just you, yeah, at one point, at one point, we were all in a circle standing in the pool and I think I said do you guys listen to?
Speaker 3:our podcast. She did. That's exactly what she did All had a cocktail in hand. So so you know how sometimes you go on a trip and math is just a different thing. It's like you know, math doesn't matter. Well, you mean. You mean like girl math or this is something. Yes, Girl math. We're talking vacation, math, now Vacation math yes.
Speaker 3:So the company that I work for this was a sales trip that I had won, so paid for our airfare out there, paid for our hotel room out there, had a very nice dinner one night and also gave us a $200 room tab. So Kitty and I are like let's just put everything on the room and then we'll sort it out later. That's easier. So you know when you're not actually paying for something and you're just vaguely signing for it. At one point we're like you know, do we get a pitcher? Do we get a glass? We're asking the waitress, the server, you know how many glasses are in a pitcher? And she says six. And we go, we'll have a pitcher Because mathematically it was just smarter to do that. We did that once. We did not get a pitcher after that again, because you know when it's 93 degrees the ice melts. So we'll blame it on that. But yeah, it was, it was a trip, it was really interesting. What did you think, kitty it was? That's all the co-workers.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it was. So it was interesting for me being the plus one, so I had met. I had met many of these people before because this was my second opportunity being Amy's arm candy for an event. Yes, that's right.
Speaker 5:So, I was the plus one at Casino Night and then here. So some of them remembered me, which is nice. And I mean I have to say your bosses are. They're lovely, they're very nice, they're very welcoming. You know they always remember. You know they'll come over and say hey, are you having fun, you know. So I didn't feel really like an outsider, but it was also just really nice because I felt that I had no obligation. I just needed to make sure that Amy felt like, if she needed to go, you know, okay, I got to be at the dinner on time. There's a little gathering over here I should go. I just felt like, as long as she's doing what she needs to be doing, because this is her work trip, I'm I'm along for for the ride. So it was very relaxing. It was very nice, taking in all the sights and sounds and everything. It was yeah good, it was was relaxing.
Speaker 5:It was a good mix of we did a lot, we were up late and it was also.
Speaker 3:Yes, um, we did state on more than one occasion that it would have been better if Stacy would have been there. You know, there's something very enjoyable about floating in your pool.
Speaker 4:Yes, yes, it is, you know. Yeah, I know Just bad timing. I had um a new employee start a week ago, thursday, and I had my intern start on Wednesday, so it would have been a little awkward if I'd if they'd have shown shown up and I just said, well, I'm on vacation. He just figured it out.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I'm going to Vegas, good luck.
Speaker 4:Yeah, good luck. Sink or swim, yeah, wouldn't have worked very well.
Speaker 3:Mm-hmm. So Kitty and I did something brand new to both of us. It was a little eye-opening. It was a little eye-opening, it was a little aromatic, psychedelic. What did the beer saw dead and company? It was bananas. I thought it was bananas. I had no idea what to expect really, but it far exceeded anything that I could have imagined.
Speaker 4:Same. Yeah. Well, you said on your post one of your posts that it wouldn't have mattered who you saw. It was that cool.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was so cool, so cool, and Kitty and I were like people like, oh, what's your favorite song?
Speaker 5:We're like I don't know, I don't know any Grateful Dead songs, yeah, and I didn't even really feel like once they were playing, I never had a moment where I was like, oh, yeah, okay, I know, nope, I was getting the vibe, okay. So I, I understood the the feel of their music, but it, yeah, it just wasn't. That just was not familiar music to me at all and we walked away from it, just basically saying if you have any opportunity to go to the sphere, you have to go. It doesn't matter who it is, because it is, it is the future of the way, um, musical events are, are going to be, and it was all immersive, it was absolutely incredible.
Speaker 3:It really was. It was so cool. Um, and Grateful Dead was the happiest crowd I've been around. I mean everybody. I don't. Did we ever figure out how many people that the sphere seats? Did we ever Google that? How do we not Google that we? Googled a lot of other stats, but not that one. I'll Google it. Okay, you get on the Google.
Speaker 4:Get on the line. Was it an older crowd? Would you have said an older crowd? It was all over.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I got to stand next to her. I kindly referred to him as Buckethead. It was a young guy in a bucket hat with, you know, the barely 70s mustache going and he had on little John Lennon glasses and he was rocking the whole time. He was there by himself. I think I overheard him talk to the people behind us that he was maybe going to the second show the next night. A lot of people our age, younger, older people, you know I saw. I saw a man in a full on suit as we were leaving I thought to myself huh, wouldn't have pictured coming right from the boardroom to the dead and company, especially cause he was walking from where we were. So it wasn't like he had. There were no suites in this thing. It right.
Speaker 4:But it's a venue, not a hotel.
Speaker 3:It right, but it's a venue, not a hotel.
Speaker 4:Yeah Well, I mean, it's not like a it's not like an arena.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah, yeah. So 18,600 seats and standing capacity of 20,000.
Speaker 3:I wonder how many were there. It had to have been full. Yeah, I think so too. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that was really cool. Two things that I'd never noticed was, first of all, they started at 7 40 instead of 7 30, which is a miracle in concert world, in my experience. They took a half an hour intermission and their last song wrapped up at 11 20. That's almost four hours. They played a solid three and a half hours and not one person in the band spoke.
Speaker 3:That's right, there was no, there was no chit chat, there was no, and on the drums and on the bass, none of that it was. It was just all about them playing. And because that big, huge, all the music, they, um, you didn't have to see the band. So we were up in the fourth section, we were probably 15 rows from the top and I have to say we were in perfect, yeah, perfect seats and in in that venue. Don't go to the. I would not say go to the floor, I would not say, I would say always look for seats in 300 to 400, because then your eye level, if you're lower, you're going to be spending a lot of time looking are you would you have to look up the whole time to get that with that whole effect, you would, you, you would have to be going like this the whole time.
Speaker 5:Instead we were, we were like this, just being able to do this. So those upper seats are really cool. One other thing that I noticed about you know, so, they've, so they've. You know the originals of the Grateful Dead, minus Jerry Garcia, minus Jerry Garcia, and then the addition of John Mayer, and I loved watching the interaction between John and I don't know all their names Bob, bob where? Bill? I don't know, yeah, other than Bob, I don't know the other names and I should.
Speaker 5:I feel bad about that now, um, but I just felt, like, just watching John's, uh, body language, and you, you, you you actually pointed it out, amy that that bob was calling the cues when the song was going to wrap up. You know, maybe when the song was going to start, everybody was taking the cue from him. So john mayer, big superstar, you know, big superstar, for sure, but the grateful dead, they are legend, yeah, and John was really respectful I'm talking about him like I know him. He was very respectful of that and I loved how they ended the show. So at the end they all came out, they all stood. I've got a couple great photos. They all stood in line and they took a bow. I love that. That is true performance, in my opinion. They took a bow, they all held hands, they took a bow and then they all clapped as well and I just felt like that is, it's different than being, you know, the big superstars and you're like you've just played your last song and boom, you're gone. Yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I know. So I think, as long as you're uh, uh, you know in public and you've got a microphone in front of you, I think there's something you might want to uh state for the record. Say it, say it loud.
Speaker 5:I'm now a John mayer fan. Yes, yes, two to one, two to one okay. But here's why I know stacy, I know the whole time I'm thinking, oh my god, what stacy gonna say. But um I have really not cared for him much because I've always seen him as being just a big, massive ego, and when I saw him in this show taking the back seat, I liked it yeah.
Speaker 4:Yeah, I get that Mega, mega, mega talented. Yeah, and this was none of his songs right so. I mean I could have dealt with it. I just I would never go to an actual john mayer concert with the john mayer songs, oh, I think that's our next step.
Speaker 3:I'm gonna get you to a john mayer concert with john mayer songs because, like most artists, where they started and where they're at now, you either stay the same, stay the same and you're britney spears singing the same three songs you sang, you know, 20 years ago, or you adapt, and the only way you stay big and relevant is if you adapt. So you quit listening to him years ago.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 5:So but yeah so that was kind of fun. So one other thing before we move on from this one of the things that I kept thinking as you're seeing Bob and the others and they are all over 70. Oh yeah, right, I don't know how old they are, they're all over 70. Oh yeah, right, I don't know how old they are, they're all over 70. I just kept thinking how amazing, what an amazing experience this is. I hope for them that here they are in this first of of its kind venue, and every once in a while I would see one of them, you know, kind of look up and and kind of take in those what was happening on the screens as well. But I hope that they are just loving every second of this residency that they have, because I can't imagine what that would be like like to have had the careers that they have and now to be able to do this.
Speaker 3:Yeah, well, you know, my question was and I remember asking you was because I feel this way sometimes and I and we've talked about stuff like this, the working with the younger generation. Here's a prime example of men that clearly, without the younger generation, would not really be touring or have this residency. So I asked Kitty, I'm like, do you think that Bob Weir, the main guy, do you think he has moments of like you know, where he feels sad that this isn't his thing? You know what I mean, that John Mayer got a lot of playing time. Now, john, like we said, john never stepped, he was never the lead, but a lot of the TV time was on Mayer's guitar, a lot of the TV time was on mayor's guitar.
Speaker 3:Um, you know, or does he feel like you talked about where they should feel super, super proud of being? You know, we were there opening night. They had an amazing crowd opening night. They they're the second. Well, actually, fish, I think, played for one weekend, um, but you too was there, then fish and now, um, dead and Fish, I think played for one weekend, but U2 was there, then Fish and now Dead Company. It's just really interesting to me as you see, the elder and the next generation, and how they have to navigate the respect and also have grace to know that, yeah, you're not all about them too yeah, or that I.
Speaker 3:I don't play like I used to, so you know, have at it, young buck sort of thing. So I thought that was really interesting to watch and I never would have thought of that when I was younger. But now being kind of on that older end, especially because on this trip with my coworkers I was the oldest there, literally I was the oldest person there. Yeah, but I'm fun.
Speaker 3:I'm sure Bob is too. So, yeah, I'm sure Bob is too, so yeah. So our Vegas trip, as Vegas always is, is really excellent. People watching, oh yeah. Yep, we did pass. We had intentions, but we did pass on going down to Fremont Street. We did not do that and we talked about how that is like freak street, usa it is, and I remember the couple times we've gone down there with you. Stacey is, yeah, adults being out there fine, but I've always kind of scratched my head about the parents who bring the kids. Kids, yeah, babies that don't know any better. Okay, I don't know why they're up, but whatever. Yeah, but kids that can kind of look around and go, mommy, why doesn't that woman have?
Speaker 4:any, you know or something.
Speaker 3:I agree, yeah, not a place, not a place for kids? I don't think so, but there were so many things that had kids at them. Yeah, yeah, yep.
Speaker 5:Remember when Vegas tried to become a family destination.
Speaker 3:There's still advertising things to do with kids, yeah but I think there was.
Speaker 4:There are some. Yeah, yeah, there are some, but it wouldn't be Fremont Street at in the evening. No, it should not.
Speaker 5:No yeah, yeah, the things, the things you see, and I there are times that I go home from Vegas feeling kind of sad for humanity. Yes, yes, and just you know just people who make really bad decisions when they're when they're there or you know, when they're just out of town. In general, so I'm just glad that we don't do shit like that. I mean, I'm just going to say it. We don't, you know, we're not out there losing thousands of dollars at the tables. We're not, you know.
Speaker 3:Kitty lost $20.
Speaker 5:Oh I lost 10.
Speaker 3:Oh boy.
Speaker 5:I know I lost 20 over two days, two days.
Speaker 4:There you go. Your budget was $10 per day.
Speaker 5:Well, I put $20 into a machine, played for a little while, lost $10. So I cashed out and then I held on to my grubby little ticket until the next night. And then I'm like I still have $10 to lose. Let's go drop this, let's go do this.
Speaker 3:Yep, yes. And then you know, do we pay the penny machines or do we pay the quarter machines? And we're such novices who we looked at a few of them were like this is too complex, I don't. I don't know whether I bet three or nine, or how many lines. How many lines Like push the button? Yeah, push what?
Speaker 3:happens yeah, see what happens. Yeah, walking around the casino, um, you know, when you start to talk about feeling bad for people, um, and having conversations, you know, kitty, and I saw a woman who was walking around fully clothed we won't, let me just say fully clothed. She looked a little tipsy.
Speaker 5:Okay, that's being kind, amy. Okay, I'm trying to be kind. Okay, a lot tipsy, a lot tipsy. She was out of her mind, she was out of her mind, she was out of her mind and she was just kind of stumbling.
Speaker 3:I would say weaving more than stumbling. She was not young. Was she alone. Well, we were kind of thinking she was yeah, she was not young, listen to me. Well, we were kind of thinking she was.
Speaker 5:She was definitely alone. I mean, at the time that we saw her, she was alone. She was walking around alone.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yes, so then we had the debate Do we need to step in? Do we need to do something? Do we? Does she need help? Does she need help? Yeah, when do you say something?
Speaker 4:Yeah, when is it your business and when isn't it?
Speaker 5:is that the question yeah, yeah, and I and I'm going to be honest I feel like we should have. We should have at least alerted someone to her. I mean, I'm guessing that, well, those casinos have three cameras for every person, right? So everybody at all times is being monitored. So you know, if somebody came up to her and tried to, you know, take her. I would hope that something like that would be seen on camera. But all we would have had to do is walk over to whoever you know one of the pit bosses or you know somebody around, and say you know what that woman over there, she's not okay. I'm quite certain that they have processes in place for things like this. I kind of feel like we should have said something.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that didn't occur to me to go to a worker there. I will say that it didn't. Yeah, I will also say and this is probably wrong now that I think about it, but had she been a young 20-something? No, yeah, I would have for sure. But there was something about her age to me that felt like she's not here by her. You know, in my head I'm thinking she's not here by herself. She probably has. Just, her friends are probably into a machine Because she wasn't walking very far. It wasn't like she. I mean at least what we saw. Yeah, yeah, you're right, we have no idea Right yeah.
Speaker 5:Yeah, this question pops up for me every once in a while and I will still never forget. I will still never forget. We were, I want to say it was one year when we were on vacation, we were going out to the Black Hills or something. It was Bill and Bo and I and we were at a rest stop somewhere in the middle of South Dakota and so we went in to use the restroom and as I was leaving no, as I was going in, there was a girl and she was maybe 12 or 13, I'm guessing, maybe 14.
Speaker 5:And she did not look good. She looked like she had not slept, or maybe she'd just woken up, I don't know and we passed each other on the sidewalk and we made eye contact and you know, 20 years later, I'm still thinking about it and I feel like I should have said are you okay? And I didn't yeah, and I didn't yeah. So it's it's. It's a question that pops into my head every once in a while. How do we know when it is the right time to say something, or if it's not to say something to that person, to say something to somebody that could potentially help somebody?
Speaker 5:that could potentially help. There's a I've seen these videos popping up on social media there's some hand signal that you can do and I was going to look it up before we jumped on, but it's. It's some universal signal for I need help. And it's not the sign language whatever the sign language thing is but it's's. It's like something like this.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yep, everybody should know that. I feel like sometimes I'm out in public and I'm so unaware of anything around me. You know what I mean, and I think that's the first thing is you're supposed to be more aware of your surroundings. I think some of that kind of stuff I don't even notice.
Speaker 5:I feel like I don't notice anybody else what they're doing.
Speaker 3:I can guarantee you, 20 years ago, at a rest stop, I was trying to corral my three kids, yeah, and would not have had any. It wasn't in. I mean, when you think back 20 years, internet had just started to be a thing for you young folks out there, you know we weren't aware of so much of what we know about now.
Speaker 5:Yeah, yeah. So this has become kind of a heavy topic that I think we maybe weren't expecting it to be. What about those situations where, okay, so Bill and I went and had our taxes done whatever two weeks before April 15th, and so we've gone up to this company up north, a little ways from here, for many years We've gone to see the same guy he's super good. We've gone to see the same guy he's super good and we've always seen him. Well, he retired two years ago. So last year they put us with somebody else who was not very experienced. This year they also put us with someone else who was not very experienced.
Speaker 5:We're not going back there again, by the way, but in both of these meetings doing our taxes, the woman that we're working with had a question, and so she would go out and she said hang on, let me ask so-and-so. I'm not going to say his name, let me go ask so-and-so. So-and-so came in. He did it two years ago and he, he did this last year and he is a jackass Like the worst of the worst To her, or you, to her, to her and kind of to us. So, for example, this time around Bill had a question. Something wasn't computing. Something wasn't computing right and it had to do with how much money he had put into his HSA. So she asks him the question. He's like okay well blah, blah, blah blah.
Speaker 5:This is his tone. He's just, he's just mad and mean and gruff, and so he's talking to her, but he's kind of talking to Bill, you put too much into your.
Speaker 5:HSA. So he's got this. You know he had a piece of paper in his hand or whatever, so get that out of there. We're going to make the adjustment here. You got to get that out of there. Make sure you get that out of here. You put too much into your HSA. He threw the page down and walked out, and then there's just silence. It's this woman that we're working with, and Bill and I and we look at each other. We're stunned. Yeah, I wanted to say something so bad to her. I wanted to say you know what, ma'am? You should not have to be on the receiving end of that. That. What he just did, that is wrong. Yeah, I didn't say anything.
Speaker 3:I think she knows?
Speaker 4:Oh yeah, she knows, and that would you know. Come all the way back around to how does she fix it. You know what I I mean. You don't have a lot of choices if that's her boss. He's one of the owners, oh yeah, owner, even worse you know what I mean she has two choices take it or quit. That's the, that's all she's got, yeah, so?
Speaker 5:that's right, but I also feel like sometimes it's just nice for someone to hear yeah, that's not okay.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Mm, hmm. Mm, hmm, I think that we have to be better about being honest in our feedback. Mm, hmm.
Speaker 3:So I had to take my car in. While I was gone I knew I had some sort of break issue. You know, hanging out with some salespeople. They're like why don't you just get a new car? You had a great year, just buy a new car. Your car is old or whatever. And I got to toying with the idea because my car is old, it's a 2008,. Runs really well. Now it does.
Speaker 3:So I got the estimate on what it was going to cost. I'm like oh, you know. Then I got an appraisal while it was still there, because I was debating do I get it fixed, do I just buy a new car? And I don't think that these two men talk to each other, the service guy and the sales guy. I'm going to go with that as the reason why this happened, because the service man's bill to me was $3,200. The salesman said if I get everything fixed, they'll give me $3,000. I said, I don't know. Okay, just fix it. I'm not trading it in and when.
Speaker 3:And I wanted to say something um, but when I went and got it traded in and the or not traded in, when I picked my car up and I'm looking at the receipts and he goes no, you were talking to X about buying a new car. You know that just didn't work out and I said well, to be real honest, I was disappointed. And he goes with the service. I'm like no service was fine, I said, but to tell me I need to spend $3,200 to fix it and then you'll give me $3,000? I didn't feel like paying you the dealer250 to take my car.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, that's. But I'm glad I said something, because now, if those two are going to have a conversation, the conversation can go like man, we should have really talked about this, you know, because that that especially and here's the other thing that really ticked me off they charged me a 3% credit card fee. I'm at a freaking Lexus dealership, a Lexus dealership where you're not buying a uh, the cheapest car you can find. Lexus is supposedly a luxury brand. I don't believe it should be nickeled and dimed with a three percent credit card charge, right?
Speaker 4:because you're not going to take three thousand dollars yeah, you're not going to take three thousand dollars of cash in. You know you maybe would have say they-. They wanted either cash a check or a debit card.
Speaker 3:Yeah, First of all, nobody accepts cash. Now, every place we went to, you know, except for the machines wanted to, everything's a cashless venue. Nobody uses checks, as I can attest to, because you have to Put your earnest money down with a check when you buy a townhome and people are like what's a check? Yeah, so I just you know the combination of those two things. I've started to give honest feedback. When asked for it, I filter it. So I'm not, you know, and I don't always respond immediately when I'm in the heat of the moment. But that's a perfect example. Your accounting example is the feedback should go to the owner of the company. Per our interaction on this date, when we asked a simple question, we will not be working with you anymore. You demeaned your employee and you made us feel as if we were inept and unqualified. Right yeah, we will be taking our business elsewhere.
Speaker 4:Yeah, yeah, Yep, I think that's a good policy. As I was doing a little research on this, one of the key things was you know if, if you're silent, it's almost like that's your approval, you know? You're approving, you know in instead of you know, to avoid conflict or drama. You know you're kind of sending that signal that if you don't say anything, well then you're basically okay with it, and that could be anything just like that. The service, the, you know.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So let me ask you guys this how do you react to parents with, with children that they're not paying attention to, that are running around while, that are disrupting life for other people? Do you say something to the kids? Do you say something to the parents? That's a tough one, uh-huh. Want to talk about? See something? Say something. I'm not talking about. You know nitpicking stuff, you know, but I remember, distinctly remember, being at the park with my kids and there are some teenagers standing around swearing up one side, down the other. There's no parent around, they're just and I and I do. I am the person that says something. Hey, you guys, there are little kids here. Either clean up your language or take it elsewhere.
Speaker 4:And that is since, yes, smaller kids with parents around that'd be tough, just because you know you shouldn't parent their kids. You want to, but you probably shouldn't, so I don't know.
Speaker 5:Yeah, if it's in that situation, I would do the same thing. I would say something directly to the kids. Yeah, it starts to make me nervous saying something to parents, because the parents are probably jerks.
Speaker 3:If the kids are jerks, parents are jerks Maybe.
Speaker 5:I feel a little bit bad saying that, but it could, they could be. And then now, all of a sudden, you're going to make it worse. If, if, if we're in a restaurant and there are kids that are running around, I will hope that the management of the restaurant takes care of that and so I would be inclined to say something to the waiter, to then get the message to management and have them take care of it, Because they're going to be the authority versus coming from. You know somebody sitting next to you. Then now you've got a super uncomfortable situation that you have to wait through um getting through dinner.
Speaker 3:So I've gotten into it. I mean going out for dinner a number of times and there have been kids in some place where, first of all, I don't think they should be. If you're out at 8.30 on a Friday night and you're in a nice restaurant, Kitty, we've talked about that Don't have your peanut butter and chicken fingers at home.
Speaker 3:I have said to the host I don't want to be seated by any kids and they kind of look at me and I'm like I have three kids, I paid a babysitter, I left them at home. I, I, I didn't want to bring my kids, I don't want to sit with somebody else's. I don't end up saying anything to the parents and the kids might be totally fine, but you know that's my way of getting around it. Yeah, and my kids weren't always angels, but I also. You know you do the death whisper. If you don't behave right now, we are going to. You know they all call the same thing that they did while they were Girl Scout leaders. You know, get down on their level. Whisper with a smile. You are going to listen to me or we're going to have a problem.
Speaker 5:Yeah, so I was at Chipotle with some coworkers a couple of months ago and there was there were two young women in there and they had a couple of kids and one was a screaming child, screaming toddler, and it was like shrieking screaming. And it was like shrieking screaming and it was just. It was just trying to get attention and the manager went over to her and said I need you to. I don't know what he said to her, but she was not taking it.
Speaker 4:Oh really she got, she was gonna. She stayed with her screaming toddler this.
Speaker 5:We listened, we listened to the whole thing. Well, we couldn't help it. Uh, we could hear her as much we could hear the kid. This is a public place.
Speaker 5:I can be here if I want to no, it's not a place right, and so the manager was kind of a young guy as well and he didn't know how to react to it. So it ended up escalating and they stayed as long as they wanted to stay. They were going to stay longer, probably, than they wanted to stay, because she said you know, now you have offended me. This is a public place. I can be here if I want to.
Speaker 4:Ooh, that's interesting. Adults behaving badly, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Right, yeah, I don't know I, I haven't seen. I haven't seen any um domestic situations in a really long time where somebody is treating somebody else poorly. I haven't seen parents treating kids poorly. Those are the hard ones. That's really hard when you feel so bad for the child. And that's another curious one what do you do about that?
Speaker 5:Yeah, I think, I think for me I would say that again, look at the situation and figure out is there an authority figure that could, that could, take over the situation, right? So let's you know. Uh, so if you're at target, okay, so I don't know what you would do in in a retail situation. Um, cause I I mean, it's not like target manager is going to come over and now there's no security like target manager is going to come over and no, there's no security. That's right.
Speaker 3:So I don't know, I don't know what to do about that. Yeah, yeah it's. You know, years and years and years ago I remember being at target and a woman was pushing her target cart and she had probably like a two-year-old not quite three, maybe somewhere around that range, and they were standing up and in the cart part and the woman was shopping and this little kid is all over the place and was looking and reaching and I remember saying something like you got this one's, this one's almost out of the cart here. Yeah, I'm gonna fall out, yep, and then I just kept walking.
Speaker 4:I'm like this. One's almost out of the cart here.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Like going to fall out, yep, and then I just kept walking. I'm like there's no need, there doesn't have to be a discussion about this. I have merely pointed out your child's going to take a digger and either take the rack down with them or they're going to injure themselves.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:And you know again, I would hope that, had my children been wildly out of hand, someone would have done the same for me. I've offered to hold babies in airplanes. Mamas can go to the bathroom. I have. I have always tried to play games with an unhappy child. You know those things that you can't help. Yeah, parents don't have control over that. I'm not going to you know, what can you do? I want to cry on the airplane sometimes, certainly not going to be able to as a small kid.
Speaker 3:But it is those other situations when it gets sticky. Who do you, yeah, the idea of going to the authority figure?
Speaker 4:Yeah, the idea of going to the authority figure. Yeah, yes, with all the things you hear about, you know, child trafficking and kidnapping and that kind of stuff. It would be really difficult to try to get in the middle of that. You know what I mean. I just feel like that's such an unsafe thing anyway, Like if you really suspected something like that. How do you get in the middle of it? And, like a Target parking lot, there's literally nobody around. That's going to around.
Speaker 5:That's gonna fix it very quickly. You know what I mean. So, yeah, I I think if I was in a park, if I was in a public parking lot somewhere and I saw something that looked like it was fishy, I'd call the police oh, yeah, well, yeah, yeah, right, but I think that's probably all you could do in that situation.
Speaker 4:Oh, yeah, yeah, note the license plate, the type of car.
Speaker 3:Yep, the details. Yeah, well, this is totally an aside. Uh, just, I got to thinking about trying to take a picture, kitty, were we at at Italy and we were trying to watch somebody a couple tables over and I said you should take up, take my picture, so she could move her camera right over my shoulder and zoom in on what was going on a few tables away.
Speaker 5:Yeah, that's right, I did I probably. I still have the photo on my camera yeah, so well have you seen?
Speaker 4:have you seen this stuff on, you know, social media, where something, something is really going on and there's all these people recording it and nobody really doing anything, does anything about it. That bothers me too, just because they're trying to get the recording and nobody's stepping in, stepping into, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Well, I live downtown. I live in a very tall building it's a bit of an echo chamber, as I don't know if you guys heard the motorcycles driving by. Um, there are nights that I hear screaming and I jump out of my bed and I'm turning lights on and I'm open up the windows to try and find where it's coming from and trying to listen. Is this a scream of distress? Is this a scream of you know, just being a butthead what is going on? So I distinctly remember some unfortunate not unfortunate horrible crimes, horrible crimes that happened that you've heard about over the years, where people always think somebody else is going to do something about it. I don't have to, because somebody for sure will, but if everybody thinks everybody else will, nobody does, nobody does it. I don't have to because somebody for sure will, but if everybody thinks everybody else will, nobody does, nobody does it.
Speaker 3:So I think that the see something, say something is probably not just for airports.
Speaker 5:That's right.
Speaker 3:Train stations.
Speaker 5:Yep, that's right. Train stations Yep, that's right, it's we. We need to take care of each other.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 5:Just in general so.
Speaker 3:All right, pals, let's stay alert, let's keep our eyes open.
Speaker 5:Stacey, you should always have your head on a swivel, on a swivel swivel swivel.
Speaker 4:swivel Not just paying attention to the surroundings and the stuff, not the people.
Speaker 5:I feel like my head is on a swivel all the time. I always know what's happening all the way around me, all the time.
Speaker 4:So there you go, I should. Yes, we'll see. I'm usually looking down so I don't trip over a crack, or I'm, you know. You know what I mean. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, peoples. Okay, what's everybody got going on for the next week? For the coming week, do we have any shots to offer?
Speaker 4:Oh shots. Hey, I found a new. Have you seen Poppy? Yes, do you like it? Yep, yeah, this one. I like raspberry rose. There was like a cherry lemonade one that was okay. Those are the only kinds I've tried because I've read the you know reviews. The other, no, not the reviews, but the flavors didn't seem, didn't?
Speaker 3:work for you, yeah.
Speaker 4:So I don't know, I it's got. You know, I think this one how's it say has 25 calories. So I'm I'm not as excited about it as because you know we like to drink fresca and I like diet squirt, so that doesn't have calories, so I'm probably not gonna stick to it, but anyway. But I like the flavor of this one, but I don't know. I thought you know from the advertising it was really something.
Speaker 3:But it's just whatever it's just okay yeah, it's just okay if anybody's wondering so um, I would like to suggest, uh, everybody, do yourself a favor and do a little google search on the dead and company at the sphere and see if you can find I'm sure everybody was recording see if you can watch a little youtube video, see if you can, um, find something on Instagram or Reel or TikTok or something, because the visuals are just, it's just so cool, so cool and it's not trippy psychedelic unless you were really lit up like some people who were Buckethead Down the row from you.
Speaker 4:Yes.
Speaker 3:Yes, so that's my suggestion for the coming week, and if you go to vegas, go find a show, because it's yes absolutely, it was awesome. Yeah, yep, how about you kit? You got anything for us?
Speaker 5:um, I don't think I do I'm just trying to get my head into the game going to work tomorrow oh, there you go.
Speaker 3:Well, get your head in the game all the time. There we go, alright, people. Thank you so much for listening. I hope that some of the stuff we talked about this week resonates. If you've got any answers for us, any experiences, got any ideas on who we should follow, or good books that you've read on these subjects, please do pass them on. We're here to learn as much as we are to share. Love hearing what all you guys have to say. You're lovely people, yes we do.
Speaker 3:All right, that's a wrap, my friends, that is a wrap, cheers.
Speaker 4:See you next week. Cheers, bye, bye. Bye-bye.
Speaker 2:I got that. Wow, who wants some heads up right now? We got that Turn it up loud. I know you're wondering how I got that.
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