Laughter, Challenges, and Revelry: Crafting Memories in the Close Quarters of Friendship

Crack open the bubbly and join me as we toast to the quirky and heartwarming journeys of friendship and community. This episode is a smorgasbord of laughter and wisdom, starting with Stacey's offbeat quest to declutter her fridge bottle by bottle—a toast to her spirited version of spring cleaning! Meanwhile, Kitty regales us with tales from the Children's Cancer Research Fund gala, where fashion and charity went hand-in-hand. We even touch on the stellar role local heroes like Cole DeVries play in making such events a success. And, despite a few technical gremlins trying to spoil our fun, we're keeping the good times rolling, including a teaser for next week's VocalEssence gala.

Navigating the sometimes-turbulent waters of relationships close to home, this episode sets sail into the complexities of conflict among friends and neighbors. We share a riveting conversation on the intricacies of buying property next to those dear to us and the dream (and drama) of building a utopian community. As we weave through personal tales, we celebrate the unsung heroes in our lives—the friends and future partners who stand by us amidst the close quarters of communal living. It's a deep dive into the tenderness of human connection, and we're here for all its glory and challenges.

As we wind down, we're swapping stories about the beauty and trials of evolving friendships, and how we keep the community spirit burning bright as the years roll on. Embracing new faces, nurturing long-standing bonds, and finding creative ways to bring neighbors together—all these themes dance across our conversation like fireflies on a warm summer evening. Our revelry culminates in plans for a bread and wine feast (balanced by an ambitious, if not slightly comical, walking challenge) and an impromptu rap session. It's not just any gathering—it's a celebration of camaraderie and the shared journey of life. Pull up a chair, pour yourself a glass, and let's create some memories.

Make sure to subscribe to our channel, comment, like, and share!

Amy, Kitty & Stacey

P.S. Isn't our intro music great?! Yah, we think so too. Thank you, Ivy States for "I Got That Wow".

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:19

All right, it's running. Get me to the top. I don't need an invitation. I'm about to start a celebration.

Speaker 2: 0:27

Hello, hello my friends, good evening, Hello. How is everyone?

Speaker 3: 0:33

Doing great. How are you?

Speaker 2: 0:35

I'm good. I'm good. I had a crazy week at work, but it's part of what we're going to talk about. So welcome to Three Cocktails In with three friends who have addicting conversations. We've been there, we've done that and we still want more. Hoping you do too. Yes, Always yes. So I'm going to show you the first of the season, the happiest hour I have made a cocktail Cute. I've got my poma, my citron, gray goose, limoncello and a little grapefruit cooler. I'm feeling very summery. It's very pretty.

Speaker 3: 1:20

Very nice.

Speaker 2: 1:21

It does make a pretty cocktail. Yes, it does, Stacey. I need you to tell us what you're drinking and why. Because you started to tell me and I said, whoa, save it for the show.

Speaker 4: 1:34

This is a good one. Not very exciting In my blue glass can't even see it. But I'm drinking Bailey's on the Rocks tonight, which you already know I like I've had it on other shows. But I picked it tonight because there was like this much left in the bottle and I was telling Amy my challenge is going to be to clean out my refrigerator of all the bottles with a little bit of alcohol in the bottom. So before I go buy something new.

Speaker 2: 2:05

What you actually said to me was I'm going to drink my way through my refrigerator. That was the phrase you used.

Speaker 4: 2:12

And I counted and I have 15 bottles, 15 bottles of stuff with a little bit of stuff in the bottom. So, before I buy any new, well, I'm not going to do it. Kitty, your face, I'm not going to do it this week.

Speaker 3: 2:27

I know I'm trying to think of. What are all of these bottles?

Speaker 4: 2:35

Well, you know different flavors of vodka. I don't know you got your rum chata in there. Yes, there's a new rum, chata that we bought pineapple rum chata. We got that a couple of months ago. Um, kahlua, which that's not very good alone, so I'll have to figure out something for that. Um, what else you know, palma? Um, what else you know, pama? Just Kinky Pink, you know. There's just a ton of stuff in there Rum, I'm sure, and I'm sure there's tequila, I don't know who knows you guys.

Speaker 2: 3:15

this is the kind of spring cleaning I can get behind Spring cleaning. I'm quite impressed, I have to say.

Speaker 4: 3:23

Right, I know so that's my goal. We'll see. That's a good goal. I'm going to have a party all summer, but we'll see. Yeah, there you go.

Speaker 2: 3:33

So, kitty, the last time we talked you had just finished up one gala, and now you just did another one. Tell us how is this one. We want the deets.

Speaker 3: 3:43

The one we had last night was for the Children's Cancer Research Fund and it was at Quincy Hall, which is the second year that they've had it there. I particularly love that venue. Lots of money raised last night to end childhood cancer, so it was beautiful. Our team did a great job. We have a really great relationship with the client. They're just delightful to work with, so it was fun. I didn't win the pink tickets.

Speaker 4: 4:15

Shoot.

Speaker 2: 4:18

What didn't you win?

Speaker 4: 4:19

I'm sorry.

Speaker 3: 4:21

Pink Four tickets to the pink concert.

Speaker 4: 4:24

I'm concert you would have taken us to yeah one yeah, it's four tickets.

Speaker 2: 4:30

Oh, bummer so oh well, she could have had another raffle for her friends. Which four are gonna, you know, want to go? Which three, two? I'm betting bill. I'm betting Bill might want to go to that one.

Speaker 3: 4:45

Funny.

Speaker 2: 4:47

Talk to me about the fashions that were there.

Speaker 3: 4:50

Yes, okay, so the ambassadors. I'm drawing a blank now on what the name. There's always a headline. I am drawing a blank on what the word is. It's always a couple and they're a major donor of the organization. And his wife is just wrapping up, mrs Minnesota, her reign as Mrs Minnesota.

Speaker 4: 5:30

So she got to wear a T-shirt all night. Yes, can I ask a question? Who is Cole DeVries? Because maybe not everyone knows who that is.

Speaker 3: 5:39

Well, I'm finding that even a lot of Minnesotans and even Twins fans don't know who he is. But he played very briefly for the twins. Okay, yeah, yeah, right, yeah, is that right, amy?

Speaker 2: 5:52

He's kind of a he's kind of a yeah.

Speaker 4: 6:02

Kind of a big deal in Minneapolis sports area.

Speaker 3: 6:04

Yeah, we love our we love athletes that stay. Yeah, yeah, although I don't really even know what he's doing now, but anyway he was. He was helping to raise money last night, so it was good, it was very good so the fact, the, at this one in particular, everybody gets really dressed up, I would say, more so than the one last weekend. The Home for Life, the Animal Sanctuary, there were some people in gowns last week, but last night it was. Everybody was very decked out, so it was very good, people watching Fine.

Speaker 3: 6:43

It was fun Fine.

Speaker 2: 6:45

I love that Now we've got one more next week. I don't know how I can do. Oh, what's next weekend? Next weekend is vocal lessons. Oh, that'll be fabulous. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3: 7:03

So it's gala season. Very cool, evidently.

Speaker 2: 7:08

I'd say like prom for adults.

Speaker 3: 7:13

Yes, Yep, absolutely.

Speaker 4: 7:17

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 7:18

Am I way off. Are we having serious glitches here with our with our recording.

Speaker 3: 7:23

Yes, I think we've got a delay.

Speaker 2: 7:28

Okay, um, let's keep going with it.

Speaker 4: 7:33

Yeah, all right.

Speaker 2: 7:34

All right, okay, so the whole. I don't know if I can do a good segue into what I want to talk about, but I witnessed two different things this week that that made me really think about friendship goals, um, unique circumstances, and I'm going to, I'm going to tell you the first, I'm going to tell you, tell them to you, and and then we're going to go from there. So I happened to be scrolling through reels or whatever, as one does instead of doing something productive, and I came across two podcast hosts who were in a real life fight, not talking to each other. Something had happened. Neither one were willing to speak to each other, and it's the start of their podcast where the one says well, liz Libs didn't know we were going to talk about this, but I'm going to bring it up and she goes into what the story is. And I think they've been friends for a while. They live two very different lifestyles. It sounds like one is living the college dream you know she's older, mid-30s and the other one has decided to opt for her health and doesn't drink very much and goes to bed early and they propose to do a 24 hour swap of lifestyle. So the one that goes to bed early was going to stay out. The one that stays out all night was not going to drink. Evidently it went horribly, horribly wrong. Both of them bailed and they had not talked since then. Oh yes, and so the one brought it up on their episode and they kind of I mean they didn't fight, fight, but they were both sharing their sides of the story and that was very interesting, the whole idea of you.

Speaker 2: 9:38

Know, we've talked about how do you handle conflict at work. We've talked about that. But how do you handle conflict with friends? What's your method? Okay, so that's, that's one part of this.

Speaker 2: 9:55

And then yesterday I had a realtor at work bring in three relatives and one friend, sister, sister, cousin, friend, sister, sister, cousin want to live in the same neighborhood. Sister sister want to live right next door to each other. They're ready to buy houses this week. These are women of our age, or a couple of them are our age, a couple that are a little bit younger. Maybe they were daughters, you know, at one point, or whatever.

Speaker 2: 10:30

And it got me thinking could I live next to my sister? How long would that last? Talk about having to deal with conflict. I know I couldn't live with my sister. I got to thinking about golden girls who you know live together in that movie. I got to thinking about you know, I've sold a number of homes in this community to women of a certain age and I've joked, oh I could build my own utopian community here with just single women or whatever. And it just poses so many interesting things to think about. How do you, how do you handle? Would you ever want to live that close to a friend For real, not pretend, not a fictional world. These women are doing it.

Speaker 4: 11:19

Yeah, that's interesting. I feel like you're probably right living together might be too close, but I think it's possible. I think it'd be fun to live very near you know close friends.

Speaker 2: 11:39

I think that'd be fun, especially as we get older yeah sorry, go ahead I think living close, especially as we get older. Yeah.

Speaker 3: 11:47

Yup, yeah, yeah, sorry, go ahead. I think living close would be an even next door. I think that's very doable, because you still have your own space and you're not going to do everything together. Yeah, um but these guys might well and so and that's so that's. There are some people who they just have a different kind of relationship, so it and you could probably pick up on that vibe if it was going to work or if it was not going to work right.

Speaker 2: 12:19

Yes, it was interesting, you know. They were like the two of us want to be right next door and they were asking about some different homes and one I wanted to show them was two doors down, because she wanted X and the other one wanted Y. They were literally 25 steps from each other, front door to front door, and they're like no, no, no, we want to be right next door to each other. I'm like, okay, okay, then we need to look at these two and they're like no, we just want to be able to walk out and get a cup of sugar and walk back. I'm like, all right, I should have asked if they were going to ask somebody to put in a joining door cut between the two, because it's not just one wall, they'd have to go through as well.

Speaker 2: 13:01

But anyway, um, there was definitely a ring leader that was kind of directing traffic, not telling anybody where to live, but like saying, well, she wants this one, she wants something like that, you know. Going on and I thought you guys have got to have been friends you must've been friends for a long time where everybody's down with us.

Speaker 3: 13:26

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 13:27

I just, I mean, we've joked, we've always joked. Oh, when we get to be old and in the nursing home, well, I think the goal is to not end up in the nursing home.

Speaker 3: 13:39

Yes.

Speaker 2: 13:40

But and also not a single one of these women mentioned a man. So I don't know if they're married, if they have a significant other, I don't know, but if it is, it's truly a happy wife, happy life, sort of deal, because their names aren't going to be on title. They're not.

Speaker 3: 14:05

They must not be married. You're just thinking that? Yeah, I'm just thinking. If there was no mention at all of a significant other like oh yeah, you know, hey, fred should come and look at it before we make a decision Then there was no mention made. That I'm guessing was not.

Speaker 4: 14:28

Yeah, but I'm sure you guys know, you know people that are very close to their family and they only do I swear they only do stuff with their families, you know, as opposed to having a large group of friends. So that's probably similar to them and they're just going to do everything together anyway.

Speaker 2: 14:54

Yeah, that's probably true. You know, that's not how my family works, and so it seems very foreign, I do think about. And so it seems very foreign, I do think about. For some reason it hits with like farming, farm families, where, you know, mom and dad might have the large farm and then, as the kids get married, they give them part of the farm and they build their house over there. My, you know, it didn't dawn on me, but that was the first time I thought of that and it was just so in complete contrast to these two friends. Yeah, we're not speaking. And so I got to thinking well, what do you do? I mean, we can talk about us a little bit. We've had differences of opinions, kitty, you and I. For the most part we're really good, I mean, I think we're all really good, but we don't like to hit things on the head, we don't like to have that face to face. Yeah, um, you know. So sometimes poor Stacy gets to be in the middle of it, the middle here, from this side, here from this side.

Speaker 3: 16:13

When really what, what, what, what are we at odds about?

Speaker 2: 16:18

Well, we're not now, but I mean, there's just been little things, just little situational things over the years. I'm not saying anything now. I was talking to somebody today and they were talking about their goal for a future relationship was to be able to have a person who's got your back. And I know that we have that, and I know that we have that, I know that we have that. But to have a person say I've got your back. We might not agree on this right now, we're going to talk it out, but in the end we're going to be good. We're going to be good, but we got to kind of get through this. But I can't. I'm just such an avoider.

Speaker 3: 17:05

It's. I think there's. There are so many fundamental differences between men and women and one of the things that I've noticed with guys is that they they tend if there's some sort of if somebody does something, and you know, if a guy does something and and the the guy friend is like what?

Speaker 1: 17:27

the what the?

Speaker 3: 17:28

hell. You know, it's just like what the hell. And they move on. Yeah, guys don't? It doesn't seem like they harbor things and it just kind of it just goes, yeah, and I mean I agree, I feel like I'm an avoider as well, because, well, probably for a lot of reasons, but I think I sometimes feel like it's going to make it worse.

Speaker 4: 18:05

Yeah, no. Avoid the conflict, because you don't know which might be worse. Yeah.

Speaker 3: 18:13

Yeah, but I don't know. I want to go watch that episode.

Speaker 2: 18:21

I know it's not very long, it's just really interesting and I mean there's uh, there's clearly some issues at hand with with their dynamic. I feel like their friendship. They should have been having these conversations a long time ago and maybe maybe they had, you know, I don't really know, but it was talk about a great teaser to get people to listen to your podcast, whoa.

Speaker 4: 18:48

And I listened to it. It was good. You know, they um makes me feel better about ours sometimes because we weren't you know, you know they were just back and forth and talking over each other some to start with, and you know, I'm not sure they came to a resolution at the end.

Speaker 2: 19:10

I mean yeah, I don't know that they did either. What was the name of the podcast? Oh, things to try before you die. Is that what it was? Do before you die?

Speaker 4: 19:22

Can you pull it up on your here? I got it. Yeah, I might be able to. Okay, yeah, it was interesting. They're British, I believe, aren't they? So some of it was a little hard to. I didn't think they were British. Oh, there was something. There was something, oh, I think, british. You didn't think so there's something.

Speaker 2: 19:42

Yeah, oh, I think british, you didn't think so. No, I didn't think so. I thought they just had that weird affectation when they speak of the younger generation.

Speaker 4: 19:48

Before you die, try before you die try before you die, so I just had time to listen to that one episode eight so I just had time to listen to that one, but I'm going to go back and listen to some of their others and understand their dynamic.

Speaker 3: 20:03

Let's see what they're trying yeah, the one I think.

Speaker 4: 20:05

She said she was 37, I didn't catch what. The other one, how old? The other no, and interesting because of the. I'm not going to give it away, but the topic was interesting. I would have never guessed she was 37. You know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 20:18

That was my exact same take on that. I never guessed she was 37. You know what I mean? That was my exact same take on that. I never guessed that I'm like well no wonder your friends pissed at you.

Speaker 4: 20:26

Yeah, yeah, yes, yeah, I assumed they were low twenties, maybe you know yeah.

Speaker 2: 20:32

Mid twenties, something like that. Yeah, so, yeah. So what do you do when you're in a fight with a sister or a brother? How do you handle sibling conflict?

Speaker 4: 20:55

Avoid it. It's a hard one. I was going to say For me it depends on which one. It is One, yeah, whatever, and the other one? We just give each other so much crap that we just it's a chuckle after a while. There's not ever much conflict, honestly.

Speaker 2: 21:13

I've had some with my sister, as I will. She and I would both fully admit we did not get along growing up. There was just this gap in age and and she has often said, well, I liked you and I'm like, oh okay, well, thanks, oops, and I I have.

Speaker 2: 21:32

I have told my mom you know, I blamed a lot of it on mom. She, she made me take Ann with me everywhere and that you know that's not fair. It's not fair when you're four years apart and you know to be the built-in babysitter. But once we had kids we found mutual ground, because kids are the most humbling thing in the world. They'll knock you right down, they don't care if you're the oldest, the youngest, the 17th, the only. You know you have common ground.

Speaker 2: 22:03

But we've had some issues over the years and it's kind of been like right around very emotional times, like when mom and dad died. When mom died, when dad died, how, how we each would have, how we wanted to handle things, um, how we processed it, um, were very different. And I remember trying to talk about things, trying to basically sell my side, you know. You know try and try and get my point across, get my point across, and she just was not having it. She was just like I don't care. You know, that's not how I see it, that's not how it is and I you're just going to have to deal.

Speaker 2: 22:44

And I found that to be probably I mean, I think, if we had a disagreement now, with a little bit more maturity on my side, I think, hoping to to try and learn how to articulate feelings, and you know, when this happens, I feel you know those things, um, but there, and then you just have to kind of but there and then you just have to kind of, you just kind of have to go, like I've said, my piece, I guess. Yeah, and you know, siblings are always going to be your siblings. You don't really have to. I guess I can't imagine anything so horrible with my sibling that I wouldn't want her as my sister or my brother as my brother.

Speaker 2: 23:30

And, by the way, my brother is just the jokester of the family and never really gets involved and he's like, okay, whatever, he's got, no, he's got no. What do they call it? Dog in the race, horse in the race? What are they? What's the game? Yeah, he's got no skin in the game. None but man. That conflict conflict in the close closeness of those people who know you the best yeah yep we had one can I describe a um situation we had with my other girlfriends?

Speaker 4: 24:08

I talked about end of last time, there's's six of us. There used to be seven and there at one time there was eight, but there's only six now, which is kind of strange. I'll tell you, I won't go into detail. On day out of the blue, the number seven, you know, sent a message to all of us in our group message saying, you know, she was taking herself out of the group for reasons she couldn't discuss, and then took herself out of the group, you know what I mean, which was a surprise to several of us, not necessarily a surprise to a couple of them. You know, I was one that was totally shocked. In fact, behind the scenes I tried to reach out and say oh my gosh, you know what's going on, you know what can I do? Can I do what? You know what's happened? You know whatever? And she wouldn't say you know. It just said you know, I can't say but I'm fine, but I can't say so she was just literally out, which was interesting.

Speaker 2: 25:27

That's like an amputation.

Speaker 4: 25:30

Yeah. Yeah, it's so interesting and, like I've described. My friend's group, you know this is, you know, um. These are people that you know I grew up with, went to high school together, you know. So I mean, it was for me, it was like that, you know, my friend disappeared literally, you know, for, you know after that your group is in some ways a little bit well maybe, maybe not.

Speaker 2: 25:58

Our, our group, our broad squad. We've got three of us that went to high school together. Draw the Venn diagram. Three, three of us went to college together. Stacy didn't go to high school or college with it. You know, stacy and I went to elementary. Trisha is is somebody that we met when we were having kids. So we have we don't have long, a few of us have very long standing friendships, but with each other you've developed your own friendships. Your high school group you weren't all in the same grade, no, but we all you know through how.

Speaker 4: 26:41

You know we're all close enough to one or two or three. You know of the others. You know very close that that's kind of how the group started. Yeah, so that was interesting.

Speaker 2: 26:54

You know how she just she was out, and have you heard from her ever in anything since? Has there been any sort of Well?

Speaker 4: 27:04

when we found out why you know why it was so like went for a month until we got together again with the rest of them. As to I had no idea why, why it happened. So now, when I found out why kind of made sense um, maybe I'm 50 50 on whether it was the right thing to do um, I didn't agree that you know. You know, I was almost kind of hurt that she wouldn't just tell me behind the scenes here's what's going on. You know what I mean? Yeah, and then we just sure she doesn't be part of this group, but maybe we could still be friends. But that didn't happen. So yeah, I've, you know, texted with her a couple times, but that'd be it, yeah, okay, so what happened with number six?

Speaker 4: 28:03

oh, seven, number seven.

Speaker 2: 28:05

Okay, whatever number eight, eight, number eight out early on um she Eight eight, number eight.

Speaker 4: 28:08

Okay, she was out early on. She came to our you know group outings, you know our whatever dinners and whatever, for a while and then just kind of lost interest and moved on with her own you know a different group of friends we'll say you know, kind of invited herself in and then decided, nah, I'm just going to, you know, go do something else. So yeah, it was interesting.

Speaker 2: 28:41

So if you want somebody to be more engaged in your group, because you miss them Sure, and you've tried having conversations individually. What do you do? Any ideas?

Speaker 3: 29:02

I think you have to respect someone's. Yeah, they're making the choice. Yeah, and I think you have to just let that. If you, if you have in fact tried, expressed interest and tried to be welcoming, I think if they're not engaging, you just have to let it go.

Speaker 2: 29:26

Yeah you have to let them Yep.

Speaker 3: 29:31

Yep, and it is sad, especially when it's a long-term. You know it's a friendship. Yeah, those years.

Speaker 2: 29:42

Yeah, okay. So what about inviting new friends into the group?

Speaker 3: 29:48

Yeah, that's hard, that's very hard.

Speaker 2: 29:52

We've tried it. We've tried over the years to bring various people in and uh, maybe we're short on grace.

Speaker 3: 30:04

Maybe, but but here's the thing We've never, we've never invited somebody in and then said oh, you know what, this isn't working, so you're not invited anymore. That has never happened, so it has always been that person. They might not jive with us. They didn't jive with us, so they just end up kind of stepping away. We're not for everyone.

Speaker 4: 30:34

No, we're not, Probably not at all yeah.

Speaker 2: 30:39

Oh yeah, so I'm, I'm trying to plan in my neighborhood. Um, I've had, since I started in no, since I started in September, I've sold 22 houses. Now that's 22 new people who have moved into a neighborhood that is now only at like 75. So that's like a third Maybe my mouth's not great that's a third of the neighborhood has moved in. Yeah, all brand new, All brand new, all brand new.

Speaker 2: 31:09

And there are definitely some groups of ages and people and places in life that I really want them. You know, in my own little world I want them all to be friends sort of thing. But also I can see that they probably have a lot in common and many of them have dogs. We have a fenced in dog park in the neighborhood and the beautiful thing about the dog park even if you don't have dogs, dog owners walk their dogs every day, multiple times a day.

Speaker 2: 31:41

So if you want to know your neighbors and you want to meet people, you just have to be outside, go to the dog park. But the other thing is you start to know the dogs really well and you end up talking to somebody about your dogs and you've been talking to them and you've never caught their name, so you only know them as you know the dogs. You know Ike's mom and dad have no idea what the parents are. So I'm thinking of trying to do something with you've met the dogs, now meet the owners sort of event that I'm thinking of trying to do something with. Um, uh, you've met the dogs, now meet the owners sort of event that might be kind of fun to have in the neighborhood Cause in my world I want everybody to. I want everybody to get along.

Speaker 4: 32:20

Yeah, yeah, I think that would be fun. I feel like every time we've moved it's hard to get yourself into the neighborhood because they already know each other. You know they already have their groups, you know. So it's hard to find your people, but all those, you know that situation everybody's new.

Speaker 2: 32:42

Everybody's new, everybody's new. And there are some really, really wonderful people that are out on their ducks and you know, I walk around showing people, homes and people from all different walks of life, all different nationalities, and these people on their decks are like hey, how's it going? How are you guys doing today? Did you like that? How you know, they're just very friendly and and these people are looking at me like this is kind of a cool place to be. I'm like I told you it's great people sort of deal. So that's kind of fun too, but it's. It's really interesting when you think about what. How do we, how do we handle friendships right now, the good, the bad, the making new friends? Do I want to live by my friends? Would I? You know? I think that there's something about the autonomy of your own home next to someone.

Speaker 4: 33:33

Yeah, yes, for sure.

Speaker 2: 33:35

The local Star Tribune just did an article. I didn't get to read the article because I'm too cheap to buy the subscription, but I read the you know three paragraphs that I can read online and it talked about this two women who bought a home together pre COVID because they could not afford homes on their own. They had boyfriends, so they were able to put their money together and buy this very big house. Well, now each couple has two kids and they have continued to live together. But now they've accumulated enough money for a decent town payment that they are selling the home and moving to their own and that kind of I don't know.

Speaker 3: 34:15

I don't know if I could.

Speaker 2: 34:17

sometimes it's hard enough to live with your spouse and your own kids. Can you imagine Somebody else's? Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 4: 34:23

No yeah.

Speaker 1: 34:25

Yeah.

Speaker 4: 34:25

You mentioned nursing home. Yes, so we don't want to go to a nursing home, but you know, there is that jump to retirement home where everybody has either their own condo-like place or apartment, or you know a lot of apartments Senior living, which I think we could do. We could do that, because we'd still all have our own place. But it's, you know, that's doable. We still all have our own place, but it's, you know, yeah that's doable yeah.

Speaker 3: 34:52

The place that Bill's mom and dad moved into when they were, when they knew that they were making their last move. They wanted to be close to one of the kids, so they moved to Denver and they lived in a huge senior living complex and it was nice. It was like they were living in a resort, had multiple restaurants, workout facility, bank, doctor shuttles, and you know, Bill and I looked at that and we're like dang yeah it's pretty nice yeah have you seen those

Speaker 2: 35:37

people who are suggesting that that's what people should do with malls that are dying out. Oh yeah, turn them into you know, 55 plus or an old, you know gen x community. I think is really how it was positioned, that you could have the you know all those different things right there and you know people could walk. I yeah, I don't know, so very interesting I'm. So that's kind of. I just thought that was really quite a few days that I had this week where I kept thinking, huh, could I do that? How do I do that? Would I want to do that? Yeah, yeah, and the whole conflict with friends that's a hard one. You don't want to hurt somebody's feelings, like Kitty said. You don't want to make it worse, right, but is stewing on it really better?

Speaker 3: 36:38

no, really better. I think that I, I think that we, as we've matured, I think a lot of times we will ask ourselves the question is it even?

Speaker 1: 36:43

just let it go. Is this even anything right? Is this?

Speaker 3: 36:46

even anything to get riled up about. Um, I mean, I know I don't take things as personally as I used to, just generally like at work here at home, you know, just in general, and I I do at times say, dang Kitty, you let that go. Good, good job. So, I don't know I mean, I just I feel like it's it's gotta be something pretty darn big for it to be okay. You know, we we need to sit down and talk about this.

Speaker 2: 37:22

Yeah, yeah, yeah I'd. I'd love to hear other people's stories. I'm fascinated by you, know, you've, I've handled things the same way for a long time. Our friend group has been the same friend group for a long time. Um, I think work conflict is totally different. I do think family conflict is different. The friend conflict is um, you know, do you let the friendship go? Do you? Do you just move on? I I'd love to hear other people's stories, other people's takes on this.

Speaker 3: 37:57

Yeah, I mean, I think, if, if, if. The question is, are you going to let the friendship go? It's gotta be something pretty freaking big. Yeah, you, you need to hit on my husband or something. Yeah, you, you need to hit on my husband or something, right? I mean, anything else is like okay, I'm just going to assume that, you know, maybe we were, we were just having a bad day.

Speaker 2: 38:29

Oh well, at least now we know where the line is with Kitty Right, we do. Oh well, at least now we know where the line is with Kitty Right, we do. Awesome, all right. Ladies, thank you so much for letting me share the goofiness that my job sometimes presents. Yeah, love it, I know, love the goofiness. So if you're a single woman of an older age who would like to join in a neighborhood with other single women of a certain age, I know where you can be. These women are fun. They're nice. Yeah.

Speaker 3: 38:59

You're going to have to keep us updated on that one.

Speaker 4: 39:01

Yeah, they really all do end up buying all in the same spot, yeah.

Speaker 2: 39:07

Yeah, exactly, hopefully this week I could have a really big week this week.

Speaker 4: 39:11

That could be Well. Three of them Is the cousin in it too.

Speaker 2: 39:15

I've sold two homes. I sold one house already May. I sold it May 29th. I'm selling another one tomorrow. No, April 22nd. No I sold one May 1st. I'm selling another one tomorrow.

Speaker 4: 39:29

Okay, so you've got two for May.

Speaker 2: 39:39

There you go, april. No, I sold one May 1st. I'm selling another one tomorrow. Okay, I'm off to a good month. Two for May already. I could have more this week. Good Good, I'll pay for my vacations with my friends, where I'm going to have a separate room. Yes, keep those friendships you know fresh right.

Speaker 4: 39:50

We'll go at the end of the day, after walking 52 miles, which is probably what we'll do, you know, we'll slam the hotel door shut, yeah.

Speaker 2: 39:59

Do it again. Be fine, For as much as I'm intending to eat there of the breads and the and the wines, I'm going to need to walk 52 miles.

Speaker 4: 40:10

All right.

Speaker 2: 40:11

All right ladies.

Speaker 4: 40:12

All right, we'll see you next week Until next time friends, bye-bye, cheers.

Speaker 1: 40:23

Cheers. All right, I got that. Wow, who wants some heads up right now? We got that. Turn it up loud. I know you're wondering how I got that. Wow, here I go. Here I go, coming. I can't ever stop. I'ma tour the forest running, get me to the top. I don't need an invitation. I'm about to start a celebration. Let me, in Brought a good time, put some friends turn it up loud past ten, turning up the crowd when I hit em with the power.